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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 414616" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I have always felt some guilt over stuff with the boys not only because of faulty genetics but also Cory's birth defects and how the doctor pretty much advocated for me to abort him and I refused. Now I tend to feel guilty for his physical issues. I also know that I made a ton of mistakes when they were young because I had no clue about my own issues and I did repeat some of my mothers horrible screaming threats. I said some downright horrible things to my kids. I also loved them like crazy but I always felt like I was a terrible mother and my kids would leave me as soon as they hit 18. Ha..we see how that went...lol.</p><p></p><p>I do know that if I had it to over again I would be a better mom. I can tell because I am a much better grandma. I know what the important stuff is. Of course, grandparenting is a whole different ball of wax. We are the ones who get to take them to the beach and search for seashells and look at each and every one. We get to stop and smell all the flowers. We get to go sit outside and watch the moon and stars or rainbows. I am the one who takes her dance class. I get her giggles and special grins saved just for me. I get to do all the fun stuff. I dont have to enforce homework or chores. I get to let her have ice cream for dinner or waffles for lunch. She has her special Princess cup at my house. Not that I dont make her mind me but its just a whole different relationship. We are more best buddies than parents. She wants to live with me...lol.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 414616, member: 1514"] I have always felt some guilt over stuff with the boys not only because of faulty genetics but also Cory's birth defects and how the doctor pretty much advocated for me to abort him and I refused. Now I tend to feel guilty for his physical issues. I also know that I made a ton of mistakes when they were young because I had no clue about my own issues and I did repeat some of my mothers horrible screaming threats. I said some downright horrible things to my kids. I also loved them like crazy but I always felt like I was a terrible mother and my kids would leave me as soon as they hit 18. Ha..we see how that went...lol. I do know that if I had it to over again I would be a better mom. I can tell because I am a much better grandma. I know what the important stuff is. Of course, grandparenting is a whole different ball of wax. We are the ones who get to take them to the beach and search for seashells and look at each and every one. We get to stop and smell all the flowers. We get to go sit outside and watch the moon and stars or rainbows. I am the one who takes her dance class. I get her giggles and special grins saved just for me. I get to do all the fun stuff. I dont have to enforce homework or chores. I get to let her have ice cream for dinner or waffles for lunch. She has her special Princess cup at my house. Not that I dont make her mind me but its just a whole different relationship. We are more best buddies than parents. She wants to live with me...lol. [/QUOTE]
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