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<blockquote data-quote="hearts and roses" data-source="post: 463162" data-attributes="member: 2211"><p>I do think that part of her decisions right now are knee jerk reactions to suddenly being alone after 56 years of being with father in law; before that with her parents. She has never truly been alone and I think she's frightened by that, understandably so. I would be also. </p><p></p><p>The three places I have in mind have three stages of living. The first is called Independent Living, wherein she would have her own apt/condo. She can opt in for housekeeping, laundry services, transportation services if needed (mother in law can drive and has a car), etc., or she can do them herself. She would have her own kitchen as well and again, she could opt into a meal plan or she can provide meals for herself. My only worry with this level is that she leaves the burners on sometimes.</p><p></p><p>The next level is Assisted Living, which is what we originally looked at for my mother way back. This level of living is what I want now, lol. It includes her own space, but with full use of the dining areas, laundry and housekeeping services, transportation, and medication management if needed. It is closer to the nursing home facility on campus for convenience of nursing staff availability, etc. </p><p></p><p>And obviously, the last step is nursing home care,. which is not on the table at this point and hopefully never will be. </p><p></p><p> I think the independent living could be a viable option at this point, however, the burner issue does worry me. H said that she's always left burners on so he doesn't feel that is an indication of alzheimers or anything else that could cause harm - I beg to differ. ANYWAY, it's either Independent Living or Assisted Living at this point. I'm fine with either and I love the idea that all three are on the same 'campus', if you will. </p><p></p><p>And once she's in, the ease of moving to the next level of care is MUCH easier than going in cold. I fear that if she moves into a simple senior housing community that by the time she's ready for assisted living, she won't have any money left and then we'd be stuck waiting until she's at the nursing care level, which would REALLY be bad for all of us! So, my gut feeling is "get her in at the lowest level now instead of waiting until her health really fails.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="hearts and roses, post: 463162, member: 2211"] I do think that part of her decisions right now are knee jerk reactions to suddenly being alone after 56 years of being with father in law; before that with her parents. She has never truly been alone and I think she's frightened by that, understandably so. I would be also. The three places I have in mind have three stages of living. The first is called Independent Living, wherein she would have her own apt/condo. She can opt in for housekeeping, laundry services, transportation services if needed (mother in law can drive and has a car), etc., or she can do them herself. She would have her own kitchen as well and again, she could opt into a meal plan or she can provide meals for herself. My only worry with this level is that she leaves the burners on sometimes. The next level is Assisted Living, which is what we originally looked at for my mother way back. This level of living is what I want now, lol. It includes her own space, but with full use of the dining areas, laundry and housekeeping services, transportation, and medication management if needed. It is closer to the nursing home facility on campus for convenience of nursing staff availability, etc. And obviously, the last step is nursing home care,. which is not on the table at this point and hopefully never will be. I think the independent living could be a viable option at this point, however, the burner issue does worry me. H said that she's always left burners on so he doesn't feel that is an indication of alzheimers or anything else that could cause harm - I beg to differ. ANYWAY, it's either Independent Living or Assisted Living at this point. I'm fine with either and I love the idea that all three are on the same 'campus', if you will. And once she's in, the ease of moving to the next level of care is MUCH easier than going in cold. I fear that if she moves into a simple senior housing community that by the time she's ready for assisted living, she won't have any money left and then we'd be stuck waiting until she's at the nursing care level, which would REALLY be bad for all of us! So, my gut feeling is "get her in at the lowest level now instead of waiting until her health really fails. [/QUOTE]
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