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<blockquote data-quote="Rotsne" data-source="post: 220966" data-attributes="member: 6326"><p>If she ends up in jail one thing is sure. She will get new friends to look up to. People she can connect to once she get out. </p><p> </p><p>Based on experiences I had with the son of a co-worker, I fear that her time in prison will be more than a lesson.</p><p> </p><p>If we took the situation and turned it upside-down, what is wrong with the situation as it is now, beside you not knowning her exact location? Would the situation improve if she ends up in jail and are released into your care after some 30 days? In previous posts you have given some hints that the system are on redrawal because she it 18 very soon. The family court are on their way out and the criminal court system remain. Would they pay for more time at a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with her new status as an adult or would they just drop her on the street if you are pulling out?</p><p> </p><p>What would happen I you ask for the charges to be dropped and the court granted this? There would of course be no reason for telling your daughter. I believe that she could use more time to think about what she has done and come to her senses.</p><p> </p><p>I truely believe that she is not good for you at the moment. Having her in jail would mean buying a caller ID because she will start to phone you as much as possible. You will be forced to remove focus from your son and be worn down even more.</p><p> </p><p>I know that you are living in another culture, so maybe my viewpoint are colored by cultural differences. If my daughter ran away tomorrow the police would not help me. They will of course take the report and they will locate her just to see if they was with adults, but if they discover that she is hanging around groups of youths or living at a friend they will not force her home unless she is younger than 14. Instead they will send out a social worker which would try to negociate her home and make sure that she attends school some of days per week (Truancy are not considered a big deal here). Beside that my home will be investigated by the DSS, so we are not willingly involving the public system / police.</p><p> </p><p>Someone you know seem to have an idea where she is. While I propose that the charges should be dropped and your son could get 100 percent of your time, there is the option of bribe them to get her in a place where you and some relatives could handcuff her and take her to court with force. If you havn't the manpower a youth transport company could do the job. As I stated above there is a hell difference between the juvie and the jail. I fear the company she would get there.</p><p> </p><p>I will pray for you and her in the hope that you get a solution that would ensure her some treatment in a juvenile facility or that she learns to stand on her own feet without your full-time support. I will also pray for you having more time and surplus for your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Rotsne, post: 220966, member: 6326"] If she ends up in jail one thing is sure. She will get new friends to look up to. People she can connect to once she get out. Based on experiences I had with the son of a co-worker, I fear that her time in prison will be more than a lesson. If we took the situation and turned it upside-down, what is wrong with the situation as it is now, beside you not knowning her exact location? Would the situation improve if she ends up in jail and are released into your care after some 30 days? In previous posts you have given some hints that the system are on redrawal because she it 18 very soon. The family court are on their way out and the criminal court system remain. Would they pay for more time at a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) with her new status as an adult or would they just drop her on the street if you are pulling out? What would happen I you ask for the charges to be dropped and the court granted this? There would of course be no reason for telling your daughter. I believe that she could use more time to think about what she has done and come to her senses. I truely believe that she is not good for you at the moment. Having her in jail would mean buying a caller ID because she will start to phone you as much as possible. You will be forced to remove focus from your son and be worn down even more. I know that you are living in another culture, so maybe my viewpoint are colored by cultural differences. If my daughter ran away tomorrow the police would not help me. They will of course take the report and they will locate her just to see if they was with adults, but if they discover that she is hanging around groups of youths or living at a friend they will not force her home unless she is younger than 14. Instead they will send out a social worker which would try to negociate her home and make sure that she attends school some of days per week (Truancy are not considered a big deal here). Beside that my home will be investigated by the DSS, so we are not willingly involving the public system / police. Someone you know seem to have an idea where she is. While I propose that the charges should be dropped and your son could get 100 percent of your time, there is the option of bribe them to get her in a place where you and some relatives could handcuff her and take her to court with force. If you havn't the manpower a youth transport company could do the job. As I stated above there is a hell difference between the juvie and the jail. I fear the company she would get there. I will pray for you and her in the hope that you get a solution that would ensure her some treatment in a juvenile facility or that she learns to stand on her own feet without your full-time support. I will also pray for you having more time and surplus for your son. [/QUOTE]
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