Thought I'd start a new thread. It's sad that having my son come home is more distressing than having him gone. I know you all understand. My son came home today. We hadn't expected him for another week. He's still not enrolled in the spring semester. His adviser was the teacher for all the classes he failed and he says he hasn't responded to any of his emails or calls. The adviser's wife passed away very recently, so perhaps he is behind...or maybe he just isn't making time for someone who blew off his classes and failed them all. Or maybe my son didn't actually try to get in touch with him and he's lying. Who knows. He has until January 6 to get enrolled. He knows that no college means he'll be going back down to clean out his dorm room and living with our rules, so we'll see. We were right. He'd not only sold his TV, but also his $150 mini fridge we bought him. I mean WTH! Deep breath. It's done and we won't replace any of it. He has a friend "J" with him. This is not a friend from college, but a boy from high school we actually had live with us for our six or seven months our son's junior year of school. He's a boy you expect to have problems. A good kid, extremely talented guitar player, but from a broken home, mother who picked her internet boyfriend two states away over him, father who lives on some type of disability he can't get along with. He'd been living with friends who kicked him out of their home, so we let him stay with us to finish up the year, but took him to his father's at the end of the school year. It was the very next day we caught our son high for the first time. We had known J was smoking, although he denied it, which one of the many reasons we took him to his dad - the kid never did anything bad, he didn't steal or disrespect us much - but it just was too much to have two teenage boys to worry about. But J will be here just a couple days, until he can go to his cousin. So...how to cope with our son? That is the question. Right now we've kind of decided to just try to take a deep breath and try to relax. He's been thoroughly warned - and J also - that if we find anything illegal in our home he's out on his ear, Christmas or no Christmas. We just won't have it. We can't prevent what he does outside of this house, but we won't have it in it. Otherwise, we're thinking we'll just kind let him come and go as he pleases, invite him to join us for dinner/movies/whatever we're doing, and see how it goes. We have a lot of plans in the next couple weeks, breakfasts and dinner parties and church commitments and I guess we'll just go on with our lives and hope for the best. I truly don't know what else there is to do.