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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 689206" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks for your thoughts, everyone.</p><p></p><p>I've already decided he is not being included. It's bout how you interact with somebody when they are alive in my opinion. I just need to decide if it is legally necessary to inform him. Also he has no relationship with his siblings. He made no effort and they have also moved on. Sonic and Jumper were young when he left and they don't remember him. On the soft chance he tries to reconnect after I'm gone, then it's up to him to deal. </p><p></p><p>Part of the estrangement, although far from all of it, is that he is a very strong Christian. So is ex. The rest of us, except my ex, have different types of beliefs. To Gone Boy, even being Catholic or Methodist does not count as a REAL Christian.</p><p></p><p>My ex has problems getting him to interact with him too and it got so bad that ex sent him an R3 letter informing him that he will be left out of his will due to lack of communication. He told one of my kids that he had been legally told to inform GoneBoy of his new status if he didn't shape up.</p><p></p><p>Gone Boy knows how much he stands to lose there so he got in touch immediately.</p><p></p><p>My informing him will not do that as he knows I will never have ex's kind of money. You know how many d c adult kids would dump us forever if we had nothing to offer them. Well, Gone Boy loves money, always did, but he is already beyond a millionaire. Anything my dad leaves will not line his pockets that much. I want my loving kids to get it.</p><p></p><p>But why did ex inform him? He was told that it was legally the right thing to do.</p><p></p><p>I don't want to contact him if I don't have to. But I am firm that my other kids get the money, not him.</p><p></p><p>Gone boy was adopted at six and has attachment issues. I would give him something precious to me, but he wouldn't want it. I already gave him his many photo albums.</p><p></p><p>Gone boy has found his birth family on FB and has gone to that country to see them. I'm sure that is his family to him.</p><p></p><p>Anyhow...Anything on informing him? Again, all opinions welcome on informing him. I'd rather not. On the .001 per cent chance that I can hurt him, I'd rather not do it</p><p>.</p><p>I personally think he'll just laugh at this, as he admitted he did to all my heartfelt, loving letters. In his mind, hubby and me have no money to leave him anyway. He forgot about my father. by the way, ex told him my dad had lung cancer too, when we thought he did, and he did not chose to even ask about him. I am not giving him anything my father loved either.fAther was very hurt at sudden no contact from Gone Boy.</p><p></p><p>All in all, I am down to if it is legally best to send a letter.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 689206, member: 1550"] Thanks for your thoughts, everyone. I've already decided he is not being included. It's bout how you interact with somebody when they are alive in my opinion. I just need to decide if it is legally necessary to inform him. Also he has no relationship with his siblings. He made no effort and they have also moved on. Sonic and Jumper were young when he left and they don't remember him. On the soft chance he tries to reconnect after I'm gone, then it's up to him to deal. Part of the estrangement, although far from all of it, is that he is a very strong Christian. So is ex. The rest of us, except my ex, have different types of beliefs. To Gone Boy, even being Catholic or Methodist does not count as a REAL Christian. My ex has problems getting him to interact with him too and it got so bad that ex sent him an R3 letter informing him that he will be left out of his will due to lack of communication. He told one of my kids that he had been legally told to inform GoneBoy of his new status if he didn't shape up. Gone Boy knows how much he stands to lose there so he got in touch immediately. My informing him will not do that as he knows I will never have ex's kind of money. You know how many d c adult kids would dump us forever if we had nothing to offer them. Well, Gone Boy loves money, always did, but he is already beyond a millionaire. Anything my dad leaves will not line his pockets that much. I want my loving kids to get it. But why did ex inform him? He was told that it was legally the right thing to do. I don't want to contact him if I don't have to. But I am firm that my other kids get the money, not him. Gone boy was adopted at six and has attachment issues. I would give him something precious to me, but he wouldn't want it. I already gave him his many photo albums. Gone boy has found his birth family on FB and has gone to that country to see them. I'm sure that is his family to him. Anyhow...Anything on informing him? Again, all opinions welcome on informing him. I'd rather not. On the .001 per cent chance that I can hurt him, I'd rather not do it . I personally think he'll just laugh at this, as he admitted he did to all my heartfelt, loving letters. In his mind, hubby and me have no money to leave him anyway. He forgot about my father. by the way, ex told him my dad had lung cancer too, when we thought he did, and he did not chose to even ask about him. I am not giving him anything my father loved either.fAther was very hurt at sudden no contact from Gone Boy. All in all, I am down to if it is legally best to send a letter. [/QUOTE]
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