This is a touchy subject. I would appreciate honest input from anyone with any view. My husband and I are going to update our will. Although we have little now, we will inherit from my father one day...how much I don't know or really care about. Whatever it us, I would like to divide it equally between Bart, princess, sonic (addressing his special needs...lawyer will help us here) and Jumper. Gone boy is the issue. I am not including him as we have per his choice been out of touch for ten or more years (I lost track) and have never even been allowed to meet his kids and we loathe his wife, who probably played a role in this. It was torturous for about two years, but I am the type to reach out for help. I am fine now and blessed to have four loving kids whom I get along with and who do not think I am a terrible person (there are ALL disgusted with and out of touch with Gone Boy). Believe it or not a heart can mend, especially so much love from other children and husband and now a blessed reconciliation with siblings too. I no longer want him in my life. He probably will never want to come back. He is already nearing 40, if he does, it is too late. I won't risk my heart to him again and it would tear the rest of my family apart as he has snubbed them too. In his mind I am not his mother. In my mind, I am not his mother either. I raised him from age 6 until he married...he has been totally absent for so long that I don't know him now. It seems like he was a foster child. They are temporary. He made it temporary. FOr those who don't know the story, he is a prosperous business owner so he doesn't need any money. It's the personal side that worries me. I am sort of reading up on things and advice is to let a child know if he is going to be left out of a will. But my mom disinherited me and I didn't know in advance. Should my lawyer send him a notice? The hurt side of me wants to let lose with the mother of all letters, telling him what he did to all of us when we loved him so much. But he doesn't care and I wrote enough letters that first two years. He put them in his computer and kept them. I'm not sure why. I found out when I tried contacting him through a mediator affiliated with his church. He is quite, in his mind, the perfect Christian. The mediator relayed mean messages from him. That was a blessing as it was the beginning of my letting go of this man I no longer knew, if I ever had. I don't think anyone should disinherit a child who loves you. It's too hurtful. But this one doesn't love me, miss me or even think about me unless I, say, write him a letter. Then I guess my loving letters asking for another chance and apologising for things I'm not sure about (not sure what he thinks I did to deserve this)...I guess this proves I'm "crazy." Got this from mediator too. So do I still love him? I love the memory of my child, but I don't know this man so I don't love him. I no longer think about him much either. When I do, like now, I am nowhere close to crying. I am mildly angry and hurt, but my life moves on. I might add that when I had that car accident that nearly and should have killed me, he never so much as got me a card. Never heard from him. Nothing says "we are done" like that, does it? My real kids, the ones who love me,were all there. Even my ex husband was concerned. Not Gone Boy. He is in touch with my ex. For unknown enough reasons, probably that ex has serious money, he does see and talk to ex and ex truthfully told me that Gone Boy was not concerned or never asked ex about me. Ex said he told him anyway. Ex is very upset that Gone Boy has dumped the rest of us. I digress... How would any of you in this situation handle informing him about the will. He lives money, although he doesn't need it. But if there is a loophole, he will use it.