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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 689295" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks all. I will mention shortly that he is deliberately not included. Nothing else. Nothing like Joan Crawford's famous kiss off, which made no sense to me since her daughter tried do hard to be loving to her. I just want to make sure.</p><p></p><p></p><p>Judging by the stiff necked and limited way Gone boy treats my ex, I don't think I'd accept a relationships ship with him again. He broke my heart more than I thought it could break then blamed me for things I never did and allowed his then fiance to be horrible. I would never trust him again. Nor would anyone else in my family ever want him around because he has treats them like dirt too. I hate to admit this, but Gone Boy did not respect anyone who didn't have a very high level profession plus a lot of money. He should have been placed in a highly educated, wealthy family.</p><p></p><p>But I have learned that social workers don't care about who they match with which child. We could not live up to his expectations (ex was not wealthy at the time) and ex has a college degree in political science, me none at all. Gone boy is brilliant. Not just smart. Brilliant. He was working on computers for others and stashing money away at 12. He hung out with his friends parents...those who were wealthy.</p><p></p><p></p><p>I digress...he will not try to make amends. This handsome, bright eyed, brilliant child was so pleasurable and witty and obedient...almost to good to be true. I loved him so. Then one day, after he met his wife, he said, "you think I'm this really nice person, but I'm not. I'm not nice." I tried to argue with him and he kept saying he wasn't nice.</p><p></p><p>There were other signs. At his wedding, he made a speech about "all my families." He started with his friends from school, then his work family...our family, the ones who raised him, were slapped in the middle. Notmally a son would name his mom and dad family first. We didn't bring it up to him but Bart mentioned it to me. I don't know if anyone besides Bart and me saw significance there. Then he took an emergency house key away from Princess...lock to his house. That seemed to make sense, except in retrospect. He was distancing himself for a distance he had always felt. We tried. We tried hard. My ex did not hide that Gone boy was his favorite child. The other two complained to me about the favoritism.</p><p></p><p>Getting off track.</p><p></p><p>If both of us change our hearts, I can change the will. But the way I feel now, and after this thread reviewing it all, I am very hardened toward him. I don't consider him my son anymore. Except for in legal terms, he isn't because he chose not to be. He can call me by my first name for all I care. I have grieved and it is done. I think he is the scary one now to do this when he knew how much all of us loved him.</p><p></p><p>If anyone finished this entire vent, I hope it made sense and thanks for sharing my darkest horror with me. This almost broke me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 689295, member: 1550"] Thanks all. I will mention shortly that he is deliberately not included. Nothing else. Nothing like Joan Crawford's famous kiss off, which made no sense to me since her daughter tried do hard to be loving to her. I just want to make sure. Judging by the stiff necked and limited way Gone boy treats my ex, I don't think I'd accept a relationships ship with him again. He broke my heart more than I thought it could break then blamed me for things I never did and allowed his then fiance to be horrible. I would never trust him again. Nor would anyone else in my family ever want him around because he has treats them like dirt too. I hate to admit this, but Gone Boy did not respect anyone who didn't have a very high level profession plus a lot of money. He should have been placed in a highly educated, wealthy family. But I have learned that social workers don't care about who they match with which child. We could not live up to his expectations (ex was not wealthy at the time) and ex has a college degree in political science, me none at all. Gone boy is brilliant. Not just smart. Brilliant. He was working on computers for others and stashing money away at 12. He hung out with his friends parents...those who were wealthy. I digress...he will not try to make amends. This handsome, bright eyed, brilliant child was so pleasurable and witty and obedient...almost to good to be true. I loved him so. Then one day, after he met his wife, he said, "you think I'm this really nice person, but I'm not. I'm not nice." I tried to argue with him and he kept saying he wasn't nice. There were other signs. At his wedding, he made a speech about "all my families." He started with his friends from school, then his work family...our family, the ones who raised him, were slapped in the middle. Notmally a son would name his mom and dad family first. We didn't bring it up to him but Bart mentioned it to me. I don't know if anyone besides Bart and me saw significance there. Then he took an emergency house key away from Princess...lock to his house. That seemed to make sense, except in retrospect. He was distancing himself for a distance he had always felt. We tried. We tried hard. My ex did not hide that Gone boy was his favorite child. The other two complained to me about the favoritism. Getting off track. If both of us change our hearts, I can change the will. But the way I feel now, and after this thread reviewing it all, I am very hardened toward him. I don't consider him my son anymore. Except for in legal terms, he isn't because he chose not to be. He can call me by my first name for all I care. I have grieved and it is done. I think he is the scary one now to do this when he knew how much all of us loved him. If anyone finished this entire vent, I hope it made sense and thanks for sharing my darkest horror with me. This almost broke me. [/QUOTE]
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