Pas, I am so very sorry this happened. It is sad that our d cs have this expectation on us that we will forever take care of them without any inclination on their end to do better for themselves. It seems they have no concept of responsible behavior or holding themselves to standards.When their demands or feeling of entitlement is not met, the acts of retaliation are hurtful, spiteful and unfathomable to those of us with conscience. It goes against the very laws of nature, values and fellow feeling.
While grieving and planning for my hubs services, Rain has appeared at the house and "shopped" our shed. Hoku saw her going through her fathers things and remove a double burner camp stove. Hoku told her to leave it alone, but she took it anyway. I am somewhere between calling police or going down to get it from her. It is probably already pawned or sold.
Hoku said she didn't want her sister to go to jail and miss dads service, but, I am inclined to think with no consequences she will continue to come over and take what she pleases.
Sigh.
So the craziness continues. I have no idea why my eldest has absolutely no conscience in regards to her family. I can only imagine she is angry at her situation in life, all brought upon herself due to her own choices. It must seem to her that we are the "haves" and she is a "have not" and sees no reason why she cannot just take what she wants or needs, with no regard for our own circumstances, with loss of my beloved husband as well as limited income.
Hubs used to watch that zombie show "The Walking Dead". I hated it, and I don't use that word lightly. It reminded me of the many "chronics" I see on the streets and ultimately, of my daughter, body snatched by meth. The longer she is hooked on this stuff, the more she loses her ability to think and act with a sense of morality and values.
It is sad that we live in fear of our own d cs, and the cold hard reality that they could do such harm to themselves and potentially, us, property and the sanctity of our homes.
With that written, I am going to encourage Hoku to make a police report. I fear the theft, uncontested will just encourage Rain to think that she can take whatever she wants. She must know that we will not stand for the insult.
I am so sorry Pasa, for your difficulties with your son. It is a hard road we travel together, and my heart goes out to you dear.
(((HUGS)))
Leaf
