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Harsh words and a tough order-how do we play this?
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<blockquote data-quote="Loris" data-source="post: 22175" data-attributes="member: 3461"><p>I understand how upset all this has made you because he is your only child. I would probably react the same way. But because of what you're going through, I am going to tell you about my son. I hope then you will see more about why people seem to be preaching to you to be strong.</p><p> My youngest son has been on probation since age 12. He is now 17. At age 12, the Judge told him he would "make everything go away" if B would follow the law, go to school, bring up his grades. B didn't care. He has had so many probation officers, I have lost count of them. He gets a new one every time he goes into placement. He has been in and out of my home since age 13. He doesn't care. I seem to do the same thing that you do. Guess what finally made me quit? He has stolen and sold everything in the house, including what we've bought him. I think I thought if I got him stuff he wanted, he would be "good". It hasn't worked. His Dr finally told me in September that if we didn't intervene quickly, our son was in trouble that we couldn't get him out of. He is headed for antisocial personality. As Sue said... Sociopathic Behavior. I finally got a social worker through the court to step in because the school would not do an IEP. He was finally interviewed from the Dept of Mental Health in Dec. The woman shook her head and said he had no remorse for anything he has ever done. He believes nothing is his fault. He has not been in school now for 2 weeks. He goes to court on Thursday, where he will be violated and sent to Juvenile Hall once again. He told me yesterday that he will just ask the Judge to give him a chance and he will go to school. To him all is a game. I am now awaiting a bed in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in Texas. I pray the Judge OKs this, as he has been everywhere and nothing has worked. He has been in Juvenile Hall, group homes and Therapeutic Group Homes. </p><p> My oldest also has bipolar. He had severe emotional problems while younger but was never criminal in any way. He recently graduated, so to speak. He was caught on tape at work stealing truckloads of fuel. He is a truckdriver, so he loaded the truck full of clear diesel fuel, drove it away and sold the fuel off the truck. </p><p> No one is trying to be cruel, believe me. I tend to be very sensitive about my children, at times, but I have to agree that you and I only have a small window in which to try and help our children. I can no longer help my oldest. He has now left my house and I have not seen or heard from him in 3 weeks. </p><p> I really hope this gets easier.I hope somehow we do help our children.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Loris, post: 22175, member: 3461"] I understand how upset all this has made you because he is your only child. I would probably react the same way. But because of what you're going through, I am going to tell you about my son. I hope then you will see more about why people seem to be preaching to you to be strong. My youngest son has been on probation since age 12. He is now 17. At age 12, the Judge told him he would "make everything go away" if B would follow the law, go to school, bring up his grades. B didn't care. He has had so many probation officers, I have lost count of them. He gets a new one every time he goes into placement. He has been in and out of my home since age 13. He doesn't care. I seem to do the same thing that you do. Guess what finally made me quit? He has stolen and sold everything in the house, including what we've bought him. I think I thought if I got him stuff he wanted, he would be "good". It hasn't worked. His Dr finally told me in September that if we didn't intervene quickly, our son was in trouble that we couldn't get him out of. He is headed for antisocial personality. As Sue said... Sociopathic Behavior. I finally got a social worker through the court to step in because the school would not do an IEP. He was finally interviewed from the Dept of Mental Health in Dec. The woman shook her head and said he had no remorse for anything he has ever done. He believes nothing is his fault. He has not been in school now for 2 weeks. He goes to court on Thursday, where he will be violated and sent to Juvenile Hall once again. He told me yesterday that he will just ask the Judge to give him a chance and he will go to school. To him all is a game. I am now awaiting a bed in an Residential Treatment Center (RTC) in Texas. I pray the Judge OKs this, as he has been everywhere and nothing has worked. He has been in Juvenile Hall, group homes and Therapeutic Group Homes. My oldest also has bipolar. He had severe emotional problems while younger but was never criminal in any way. He recently graduated, so to speak. He was caught on tape at work stealing truckloads of fuel. He is a truckdriver, so he loaded the truck full of clear diesel fuel, drove it away and sold the fuel off the truck. No one is trying to be cruel, believe me. I tend to be very sensitive about my children, at times, but I have to agree that you and I only have a small window in which to try and help our children. I can no longer help my oldest. He has now left my house and I have not seen or heard from him in 3 weeks. I really hope this gets easier.I hope somehow we do help our children. [/QUOTE]
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