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Has anyone reconnected with their difficult child after years of being out of contact?
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<blockquote data-quote="mrsammler" data-source="post: 434949"><p>A distant cousin had 3 brothers who all "went wild" in their teens after the parents divorced and the father wasn't around any more to rein them in. Classic difficult children, and one by one they were kicked out at 18-20, and one by one they got into worse trouble in town and eventually moved away to avoid warrants and the like. All 3 are presumably in their 50s now and all 3 fell out of contact with family over time, usually after much anger at having been refused return to their mother's home due to their ongoing terrible behavior. Upshot: one is in prison. Another has been in and out of prison and now lives far away in a trailer park, still occasionally in trouble kind of life. The third no one has heard from in over a decade. He didn't even come home for his father's funeral years ago. He is presumed dead or in prison.</p><p></p><p>That's discouraging, of course, but it's also true. I wonder how many serious difficult children ever pull out of their tailspin--GFGness seems a chronic pathology in many cases. My difficult child nephew continues as of old, but now housed and financed-by-his-mother in an apartment in a city 90 mins from his home town. No changes, except he has managed to stay out of legal trouble--but still drugging, dropped out of community college with all sorts of bogus excuses, FB posts paint a picture of decadent indolence, complaints about the cops, etc. The only thing that keeps him out of legal trouble, as far as I can tell, is his mother's willingness to pay all his bills. Remove that and he'd rapidly go down the rabbit hole.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="mrsammler, post: 434949"] A distant cousin had 3 brothers who all "went wild" in their teens after the parents divorced and the father wasn't around any more to rein them in. Classic difficult children, and one by one they were kicked out at 18-20, and one by one they got into worse trouble in town and eventually moved away to avoid warrants and the like. All 3 are presumably in their 50s now and all 3 fell out of contact with family over time, usually after much anger at having been refused return to their mother's home due to their ongoing terrible behavior. Upshot: one is in prison. Another has been in and out of prison and now lives far away in a trailer park, still occasionally in trouble kind of life. The third no one has heard from in over a decade. He didn't even come home for his father's funeral years ago. He is presumed dead or in prison. That's discouraging, of course, but it's also true. I wonder how many serious difficult children ever pull out of their tailspin--GFGness seems a chronic pathology in many cases. My difficult child nephew continues as of old, but now housed and financed-by-his-mother in an apartment in a city 90 mins from his home town. No changes, except he has managed to stay out of legal trouble--but still drugging, dropped out of community college with all sorts of bogus excuses, FB posts paint a picture of decadent indolence, complaints about the cops, etc. The only thing that keeps him out of legal trouble, as far as I can tell, is his mother's willingness to pay all his bills. Remove that and he'd rapidly go down the rabbit hole. [/QUOTE]
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