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has your difficult child learned perspective taking skills/abilities?
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 413838" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>rls--</p><p> </p><p>I think it is not a parent's " regular job" to teach a child empathy. Just as it is not part of the job to teach 'imagination'. These are traits that most folks are born with. They are usually natural abilities.</p><p> </p><p>But when it comes to difficult children, the natural abilities are sometimes missing...and THAT's when we need to find a way to teach them these things.</p><p> </p><p>My difficult child has a terrible sense of others. She assumes that everyone "knows" what she is thinking at any moment. She assumes that certain people are "out to get her". She assumes that she can force people to do what she wants using certain techniques...</p><p> </p><p>And because her sense of others is so wrong....she gets herself into a lot of trouble.</p><p> </p><p>The therapist has been trying to work with her to get her to see things from another point of view - but many times, it's like arguing with a wall. The therapist was recently trying to convince difficult child that it is NOT okay to insult other people. difficult child could not believe that her comments about another's appearance would be perceived as an insult, because she cannot believe that the other person does not see themselves exactly the same way that difficult child does. IOW - if difficult child thinks you are ugly, then you must think you are ugly, too. Therefore, when she discusses your horrible appearance, she expects you to agree.</p><p> </p><p>So....we are working on it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 413838, member: 6546"] rls-- I think it is not a parent's " regular job" to teach a child empathy. Just as it is not part of the job to teach 'imagination'. These are traits that most folks are born with. They are usually natural abilities. But when it comes to difficult children, the natural abilities are sometimes missing...and THAT's when we need to find a way to teach them these things. My difficult child has a terrible sense of others. She assumes that everyone "knows" what she is thinking at any moment. She assumes that certain people are "out to get her". She assumes that she can force people to do what she wants using certain techniques... And because her sense of others is so wrong....she gets herself into a lot of trouble. The therapist has been trying to work with her to get her to see things from another point of view - but many times, it's like arguing with a wall. The therapist was recently trying to convince difficult child that it is NOT okay to insult other people. difficult child could not believe that her comments about another's appearance would be perceived as an insult, because she cannot believe that the other person does not see themselves exactly the same way that difficult child does. IOW - if difficult child thinks you are ugly, then you must think you are ugly, too. Therefore, when she discusses your horrible appearance, she expects you to agree. So....we are working on it. [/QUOTE]
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