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<blockquote data-quote="tiredmommy" data-source="post: 183489" data-attributes="member: 1722"><p>{{{Hugs}}} It really helped me with Duckie for me to think through and decide when a spanking was appropriate. Let's face it, they will become ineffective if used too much. Then a parent can get overly frustrated and lash out in true anger. That's when it becomes violence, in my humble opinion. So, I decided a long time ago that the only time it was appropriate to spank Duckie (preferably NOT over my knee due to the struggling) was when she was doing something dangerous to herself or others. </p><p> </p><p>This helps me because I know the spanking won't be too hard because I won't be emotional. by the way, it may be time to come up with a strong alternative. For example: I have actually called and cancelled Duckie attending a party because of poor behavior (and made her drop off a gift early). Believe me, this stings a lot more than three swifts slaps on the butt! If you're going to "hit" her, get it where she hurts! She gets to lose something very important to her! This can be hard because you have to listen to "I hate you" and deal with sullen behavior, but it will make a very strong impact if you stick to your guns.</p><p> </p><p>As everyone else has said, cut yourself some slack. You're a great Mom and she is a great kid (just with some issues).</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="tiredmommy, post: 183489, member: 1722"] {{{Hugs}}} It really helped me with Duckie for me to think through and decide when a spanking was appropriate. Let's face it, they will become ineffective if used too much. Then a parent can get overly frustrated and lash out in true anger. That's when it becomes violence, in my humble opinion. So, I decided a long time ago that the only time it was appropriate to spank Duckie (preferably NOT over my knee due to the struggling) was when she was doing something dangerous to herself or others. This helps me because I know the spanking won't be too hard because I won't be emotional. by the way, it may be time to come up with a strong alternative. For example: I have actually called and cancelled Duckie attending a party because of poor behavior (and made her drop off a gift early). Believe me, this stings a lot more than three swifts slaps on the butt! If you're going to "hit" her, get it where she hurts! She gets to lose something very important to her! This can be hard because you have to listen to "I hate you" and deal with sullen behavior, but it will make a very strong impact if you stick to your guns. As everyone else has said, cut yourself some slack. You're a great Mom and she is a great kid (just with some issues). [/QUOTE]
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