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<blockquote data-quote="New Leaf" data-source="post: 666814" data-attributes="member: 19522"><p>Thank you. I am very grateful to have found this forum. It has been a catharsis to be able to share this experience with others who understand the difficulties of our situation, the helpful, kind commentary and solid advice has been a strengthening factor to stay the course. It also helps to be somewhat anonymous, people grow weary of hearing these stories again and again and begin to wonder of our sanity. There is somewhat of a shame factor as well. I long to be able to tell stories of positivity and am hopeful that one day I will be able to. I think folks can also be judgmental because of the old "apple does not fall far from the tree" theory. </p><p></p><p>I do understand that we try our best as parents and oftentimes fall short. Difficult children seem to hang on to these shortcomings to pull out as weapons and try to invoke feelings of guilt. It is an ugly game. I will not be a player anymore and fall victim to these tactics.</p><p></p><p>It is true that my daughter has made a mockery of the TRO, and us, as well. She has used our best intentions to help, to continue on the same destructive path. Her children have become pawns and victims of the system. They are "cash cows" for food stamps. Their parents are deeply enmeshed in their cyclonic relationship, so much so that they do not care to see the ill affect on their children, and the family members who have looked on in dismay. Rather than continue to participate in the storm of negativity, I will be there when the time is right. For now I must stand firm, brush myself off, hold my head up and be an advocate for decency for my household.</p><p></p><p>Thank you for being here. It is a bright light in dark times.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="New Leaf, post: 666814, member: 19522"] Thank you. I am very grateful to have found this forum. It has been a catharsis to be able to share this experience with others who understand the difficulties of our situation, the helpful, kind commentary and solid advice has been a strengthening factor to stay the course. It also helps to be somewhat anonymous, people grow weary of hearing these stories again and again and begin to wonder of our sanity. There is somewhat of a shame factor as well. I long to be able to tell stories of positivity and am hopeful that one day I will be able to. I think folks can also be judgmental because of the old "apple does not fall far from the tree" theory. I do understand that we try our best as parents and oftentimes fall short. Difficult children seem to hang on to these shortcomings to pull out as weapons and try to invoke feelings of guilt. It is an ugly game. I will not be a player anymore and fall victim to these tactics. It is true that my daughter has made a mockery of the TRO, and us, as well. She has used our best intentions to help, to continue on the same destructive path. Her children have become pawns and victims of the system. They are "cash cows" for food stamps. Their parents are deeply enmeshed in their cyclonic relationship, so much so that they do not care to see the ill affect on their children, and the family members who have looked on in dismay. Rather than continue to participate in the storm of negativity, I will be there when the time is right. For now I must stand firm, brush myself off, hold my head up and be an advocate for decency for my household. Thank you for being here. It is a bright light in dark times. [/QUOTE]
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