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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 666848" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>New leaf, welcome to the forum. You sound both "done" and like you have a plan for what you will do next.</p><p></p><p>Both of those conditions must be present in order for change to occur.</p><p></p><p>A third condition is ongoing work on you. You didn't get in this situation overnight and you won't walk out of it overnight.</p><p></p><p>I found that I could have incredible resolve but lose it due to interactions with my Difficult Child, my own doubts and fears and just time passing by.</p><p></p><p>Our moods and ideas shift and ebb and flow and it is very hard to make one "final" decision and have it stick. </p><p></p><p>I am glad you are thinking about the next phone call from her. One suggestion: actually write down on a piece of paper what you plan to say. Keep it short and simple and direct and clear. No matter what she says and how many Curve balls she throws, stick to what is on that piece of paper. </p><p></p><p>You might also devise a plan for seeing your grandchildren away from your house and what that might look like. Again, write it down.</p><p></p><p>This stuff is very hard. And it's about progress, not perfection. We are here for you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 666848, member: 17542"] New leaf, welcome to the forum. You sound both "done" and like you have a plan for what you will do next. Both of those conditions must be present in order for change to occur. A third condition is ongoing work on you. You didn't get in this situation overnight and you won't walk out of it overnight. I found that I could have incredible resolve but lose it due to interactions with my Difficult Child, my own doubts and fears and just time passing by. Our moods and ideas shift and ebb and flow and it is very hard to make one "final" decision and have it stick. I am glad you are thinking about the next phone call from her. One suggestion: actually write down on a piece of paper what you plan to say. Keep it short and simple and direct and clear. No matter what she says and how many Curve balls she throws, stick to what is on that piece of paper. You might also devise a plan for seeing your grandchildren away from your house and what that might look like. Again, write it down. This stuff is very hard. And it's about progress, not perfection. We are here for you. [/QUOTE]
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