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<blockquote data-quote="dizzymum" data-source="post: 126927" data-attributes="member: 4688"><p>How kind you all are<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/love-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":love-very:" title="love-very :love-very:" data-shortname=":love-very:" />. Thank you for warmly welcoming me and my brood. I will try and answer your questions as simply as possible.</p><p>Me.... a good kid as far as I know, thank you for the fear of God analogy, spot on! Obviously I did the odd kid thing and my brothers and I would occassionally drive my mum to distraction but just what I would class as the norm. I had a twin brother who sadly died in a car crash 18 months before my difficult child was born..... I struggle with whether or not my grief affected her. That has always lurked at the back of my mind. Her bio dad.... well, he was 26 and changed over night. No financial help, no visits, did all he could to wriggle out of his responsibilities and move on unscathed. I was 34 weeks pregnant.Nice. He was and is a highly intelligent man but was not honest. I personally couldn't sleep at night if I behaved as he did/does. I now have email contact with him and he is supportive which is a refreshing change but it took some straight talking from me. He has a photographic memory, is estranged from his family and he tried to have more children but they sadly died before birth. He had a reputation for being a liar and womaniser and was described to me as a marmite person... you love him or hate him! He has done well on the career and financial front though.</p><p> My difficult child.... No problems with senses, just incredibly busy, enjoyed spreading newspaper across the floor and turning the furniture upside down. Had to touch everything and could not be persuaded to diverse once her mind was set. Very quick learner, no concentration, poor social skills, no personal boundries, brilliant mimic, clumsy, accident prone, unable or unwilling to do crafts with me, turned down all invitations do sew, garden, paint, draw, model, sculpt, cook etc! I thought it would be good for us. Easy to upset too. Unable to see the repurcussions of her actions or think through decisions, tomorrow is not on the agenda! I never felt that I could get it right but I would guess she would say the same! Never really thought about the eye contact thing, but looking back, I can't say there was much. It felt like we were from a different place. She always needed her sleep but was not one to crash out on the floor. I kept a good routine but she would argue and fight in her sleep!!! She was wet during the day until she was 10 and I worked out that fruit juice, squash, ice lollies etc were the cause. It must be an acid related thing. My GP laughed at me but I can't help what I know.Trial and error got me there! The same lyrics have been playing, just a different tune if that makes sense. As she has grown and changed, so have our problems.I think she is unhappy too.</p><p> I have been depressed at times but am generally a smile spreader! Life has thrown some challenges my way but I am still swimming. Is that okay? Thank you <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/felttip/love-very.png" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":love-very:" title="love-very :love-very:" data-shortname=":love-very:" /> Dizzy xx</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="dizzymum, post: 126927, member: 4688"] How kind you all are:love-very:. Thank you for warmly welcoming me and my brood. I will try and answer your questions as simply as possible. Me.... a good kid as far as I know, thank you for the fear of God analogy, spot on! Obviously I did the odd kid thing and my brothers and I would occassionally drive my mum to distraction but just what I would class as the norm. I had a twin brother who sadly died in a car crash 18 months before my difficult child was born..... I struggle with whether or not my grief affected her. That has always lurked at the back of my mind. Her bio dad.... well, he was 26 and changed over night. No financial help, no visits, did all he could to wriggle out of his responsibilities and move on unscathed. I was 34 weeks pregnant.Nice. He was and is a highly intelligent man but was not honest. I personally couldn't sleep at night if I behaved as he did/does. I now have email contact with him and he is supportive which is a refreshing change but it took some straight talking from me. He has a photographic memory, is estranged from his family and he tried to have more children but they sadly died before birth. He had a reputation for being a liar and womaniser and was described to me as a marmite person... you love him or hate him! He has done well on the career and financial front though. My difficult child.... No problems with senses, just incredibly busy, enjoyed spreading newspaper across the floor and turning the furniture upside down. Had to touch everything and could not be persuaded to diverse once her mind was set. Very quick learner, no concentration, poor social skills, no personal boundries, brilliant mimic, clumsy, accident prone, unable or unwilling to do crafts with me, turned down all invitations do sew, garden, paint, draw, model, sculpt, cook etc! I thought it would be good for us. Easy to upset too. Unable to see the repurcussions of her actions or think through decisions, tomorrow is not on the agenda! I never felt that I could get it right but I would guess she would say the same! Never really thought about the eye contact thing, but looking back, I can't say there was much. It felt like we were from a different place. She always needed her sleep but was not one to crash out on the floor. I kept a good routine but she would argue and fight in her sleep!!! She was wet during the day until she was 10 and I worked out that fruit juice, squash, ice lollies etc were the cause. It must be an acid related thing. My GP laughed at me but I can't help what I know.Trial and error got me there! The same lyrics have been playing, just a different tune if that makes sense. As she has grown and changed, so have our problems.I think she is unhappy too. I have been depressed at times but am generally a smile spreader! Life has thrown some challenges my way but I am still swimming. Is that okay? Thank you :love-very: Dizzy xx [/QUOTE]
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