I haven't read all of your other thread- I will do that in a little while. But- since I've been reading a lot about this stuff for my own difficult child- there are three options to check into- well, four really, in Virginia- there might be more or less where you live, but consider these before you call anyone becasue the EXACT wording you use might make a difference in where they steer you-
1) keep the kid at home and get outside supports (it sounds like you don';t think this is the right answer for you at this time)
2) place kid outside of home, parent KEEPS legal custody (parent can get kid back at any time- it is parent's choice)
3) place kid outside of home, parent GIVES UP legal custody but has a few parental rights (I think) (parent gets kid back when system says they can)
4) place kid outside of home and parent gives up all custody and parental rights (parent never gets kid back)
Yes, as Jenifer suggested, if you can afford it, a family attny might be a good idea. Here, if you call a lwyer referral place, many times you can get an attny to consult with you on the phone for about $35 for 1/2 hr. This is supposed to be the initial consultation to see if you want to hire them and they want the case, but I think you could ask a lot of questions, then just tell them you'll call them back if you decide to hire them.