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<blockquote data-quote="Giulia" data-source="post: 543984" data-attributes="member: 14306"><p>Janet, I am by no means Billy's mom and I don't claim to have all the answers. </p><p></p><p>But what caught my attention is when you state that Billy is over 325 lbs. You also say that "but normally men dont seem to have the same issues if they know their stuff". </p><p>I will tell you that unfortunately, they do. Of course, in less proportions than women, but still, it appears that you can absolutely be right, and more right than not. </p><p>Otherwise, why would a prospective employer say that "he is underdressed" whereas he wears black slacks, a belt, a nice pair of shoes and a freshly cut hair ? It sounds more like an excuse not to hire him even if Billy knows well his subject. And even if Billy would do exceptionally well at the interview, that an employer would have nothing to reproach him, the employer would had a problem with Billy's being over 325lbs. </p><p>The thing is that nowadays, even men with excess weight face many difficulties to find a job, even with men, employers will give precedence to a thin man even if he is less qualified. </p><p>Unfortunately, attractivity at work is also a duty for men. </p><p>I can also say that even with the best effort to find a job, a fat man will have more than his fair share of difficulty to find a job. I will state the same about housing, especially if there are more persons who need to rent than landlords who rent. </p><p></p><p>Anecdotal evidences also show that for renting, fat people have a great difficulty to find and they pay more than thin/normal weight persons. Unfortunately, even for housing, fatphobia exists nowadays. </p><p></p><p>I didn't absolutely intend to lecture you. But as your gut feelings said, it appear that Billy's weight is one of the major toll to find a job and a housing. Even with the best effort, he will have more than his fair share of difficulties to find a job and a housing because of fatphobia.</p><p></p><p>I unfortunately don't have words of wisdom. I can only wish Billy and you the best I can wish.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Giulia, post: 543984, member: 14306"] Janet, I am by no means Billy's mom and I don't claim to have all the answers. But what caught my attention is when you state that Billy is over 325 lbs. You also say that "but normally men dont seem to have the same issues if they know their stuff". I will tell you that unfortunately, they do. Of course, in less proportions than women, but still, it appears that you can absolutely be right, and more right than not. Otherwise, why would a prospective employer say that "he is underdressed" whereas he wears black slacks, a belt, a nice pair of shoes and a freshly cut hair ? It sounds more like an excuse not to hire him even if Billy knows well his subject. And even if Billy would do exceptionally well at the interview, that an employer would have nothing to reproach him, the employer would had a problem with Billy's being over 325lbs. The thing is that nowadays, even men with excess weight face many difficulties to find a job, even with men, employers will give precedence to a thin man even if he is less qualified. Unfortunately, attractivity at work is also a duty for men. I can also say that even with the best effort to find a job, a fat man will have more than his fair share of difficulty to find a job. I will state the same about housing, especially if there are more persons who need to rent than landlords who rent. Anecdotal evidences also show that for renting, fat people have a great difficulty to find and they pay more than thin/normal weight persons. Unfortunately, even for housing, fatphobia exists nowadays. I didn't absolutely intend to lecture you. But as your gut feelings said, it appear that Billy's weight is one of the major toll to find a job and a housing. Even with the best effort, he will have more than his fair share of difficulties to find a job and a housing because of fatphobia. I unfortunately don't have words of wisdom. I can only wish Billy and you the best I can wish. [/QUOTE]
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