I know exactly how you feel. When we married I was pregnant and still in college. I took a year off and then finished up my bachelors.
husband wanted to write a book so I worked while he "wrote". But he didn't. Not a word.
Then he got a job and we both worked. Then MY dreams of grad school got shuffled aside because Wiz needed me full time for his therapy and home schooling.
Then my parents offered to pay husband's way through grad school. The understanding was that he would get a job NEAR A GOOD SCHOOL FOR ME TO DO GRAD SCHOOL after he graduated.
He refused to even look for a job that would mean we moved away from this town. I like the town. Really do. But I went to college here and they just are NOT strong in what I want to study. It would cripple my career to do school here.
NOW husband is laid off, job hunting, and has started talking about going back to school. AGAIN.
I really resent that he even had the gall to bring it up to me. Esp when he KNOWS how much I want to do grad school as soon as my health gets straightened out.
I don't have suggestions or solutions, but I can commiserate.
by the way, my husband was over 40 when he was in grad school. It really isn't too late to go back.
Sending hugs to you. Just don't let these feelings fester and spill poison over your relationship.