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<blockquote data-quote="Tanya M" data-source="post: 639733" data-attributes="member: 18516"><p>Hi Stress Bunny, I can so relate to what you are going through with your sister. I have 3 older sisters and over the years have had issues off and on. I'm finally in a pretty good place with all of them. I once shared with my oldest sister that I was envious of the relationship she has with her daughter whom is a dream child, grown successful, responsible, the complete opposite of my difficult child. My sister shared something with me that changed my perspective, she told me she was envious of me because I had a great husband and marriage. My sister has had 3 failed marriages. I learned that day to be grateful for what I have and I no longer have those "envious" feelings. We each have good and bad in our lives.</p><p>One of my other sisters made comments years ago about my difficult child and that if he came to live with her she could get him on the straight and narrow. My son did spend some time a few years ago with that sister and just went on and on about how great she is, however she was unsuccessful at getting him on the straight and narrow.</p><p>Family dynamics can be challenging at best but mix in the holidays and the stress level can skyrocket. I can only offer this; as hard as it is be the bigger person, no matter what your son looks like when he shows up or what his girlfriend looks like, do not engage him, even if he says something that irks you. Keep your words to him short and sweet or just say nothing at all. You said he likes being the center of attention, let him, I'm sure others see what you see. He may be your son but he is not a reflection of you so don't ever apologize for him. As for him contacting your sister, I would guess he knows how to push your buttons. These are the kinds of things you just have to let go of. Holding feelings of anger and hurt only hurt you. Don't give them that kind of power over your emotions.</p><p>Keep focusing and being grateful for what you have.</p><p>I hope you are able to have a good Thanksgiving.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tanya M, post: 639733, member: 18516"] Hi Stress Bunny, I can so relate to what you are going through with your sister. I have 3 older sisters and over the years have had issues off and on. I'm finally in a pretty good place with all of them. I once shared with my oldest sister that I was envious of the relationship she has with her daughter whom is a dream child, grown successful, responsible, the complete opposite of my difficult child. My sister shared something with me that changed my perspective, she told me she was envious of me because I had a great husband and marriage. My sister has had 3 failed marriages. I learned that day to be grateful for what I have and I no longer have those "envious" feelings. We each have good and bad in our lives. One of my other sisters made comments years ago about my difficult child and that if he came to live with her she could get him on the straight and narrow. My son did spend some time a few years ago with that sister and just went on and on about how great she is, however she was unsuccessful at getting him on the straight and narrow. Family dynamics can be challenging at best but mix in the holidays and the stress level can skyrocket. I can only offer this; as hard as it is be the bigger person, no matter what your son looks like when he shows up or what his girlfriend looks like, do not engage him, even if he says something that irks you. Keep your words to him short and sweet or just say nothing at all. You said he likes being the center of attention, let him, I'm sure others see what you see. He may be your son but he is not a reflection of you so don't ever apologize for him. As for him contacting your sister, I would guess he knows how to push your buttons. These are the kinds of things you just have to let go of. Holding feelings of anger and hurt only hurt you. Don't give them that kind of power over your emotions. Keep focusing and being grateful for what you have. I hope you are able to have a good Thanksgiving. [/QUOTE]
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