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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 639743" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>KT's Mom, your story reminded of my ex's total determination to force his two kids (mine also) to get together. I think he thought that if Scott (the grown child we adopted at six) and Julie (my precious, beloved daughter who was Scott's best friend and whom he dumped like an old newspaper after he met his wife) got together again, they'd forge a new relationship. Although Julie fought it for years, she finally caved in for a breastfast meeting with her SO, Scott, NOT Scott's wife (she would never show up) and her father for breakfast. She told me she was so nervous she could barely brush her hair.</p><p></p><p>He wanted them to have a relationship. He was going to force it.</p><p></p><p>Well, they had breakfast. Nobody said much. What they did say just made Julie have more disdain for him. But mostly it was silent and eye averting.</p><p></p><p>I guess that's better than a fight or harsh words. My kids, minus 37, are more apt to clam up than to give it a shout out.</p><p></p><p>My ex was probably very disappointed, but you can't force it. I only know Julie's side of the story. She and Scott were very close growing up and he depended on her social skills a lot because he was very shy. He liked to take her with him to parties so he could loosen up. Scott's wife, after she met him, wanted him to herself and was jealous of his relationship with his sister. So she told him to pull away and he allowed her to influence him to do it. Drama, drama, drama.</p><p></p><p>Ex has not once, since that disasterous breakfast, tried to make the two of them come together for his sake.</p><p></p><p>But there are parents, and ex is one, who thinks he can influence his grown kids. He really isn't THAT controlling, but he has his moments.</p><p></p><p>Needless to say, we have all our holidays without Scott, by his wife's choice. And he goes along with her. Or agrees with whatever she thinks of us for whatever reasons she thinks it (shrug). It is what it is.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 639743, member: 1550"] KT's Mom, your story reminded of my ex's total determination to force his two kids (mine also) to get together. I think he thought that if Scott (the grown child we adopted at six) and Julie (my precious, beloved daughter who was Scott's best friend and whom he dumped like an old newspaper after he met his wife) got together again, they'd forge a new relationship. Although Julie fought it for years, she finally caved in for a breastfast meeting with her SO, Scott, NOT Scott's wife (she would never show up) and her father for breakfast. She told me she was so nervous she could barely brush her hair. He wanted them to have a relationship. He was going to force it. Well, they had breakfast. Nobody said much. What they did say just made Julie have more disdain for him. But mostly it was silent and eye averting. I guess that's better than a fight or harsh words. My kids, minus 37, are more apt to clam up than to give it a shout out. My ex was probably very disappointed, but you can't force it. I only know Julie's side of the story. She and Scott were very close growing up and he depended on her social skills a lot because he was very shy. He liked to take her with him to parties so he could loosen up. Scott's wife, after she met him, wanted him to herself and was jealous of his relationship with his sister. So she told him to pull away and he allowed her to influence him to do it. Drama, drama, drama. Ex has not once, since that disasterous breakfast, tried to make the two of them come together for his sake. But there are parents, and ex is one, who thinks he can influence his grown kids. He really isn't THAT controlling, but he has his moments. Needless to say, we have all our holidays without Scott, by his wife's choice. And he goes along with her. Or agrees with whatever she thinks of us for whatever reasons she thinks it (shrug). It is what it is. [/QUOTE]
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