Stress Bunny,
Hi - just want you to know I'm sending my support and empathy your way.
It seems like you're in a no-win situation. JT and your sister are setting you up to look foolish on Thanksgiving. I don't think JT wants to get together to "give thanks" and be around his loving family in the true spirit of the holiday, do you? Your Mom & Dad, however, and Bubby, want that very much, and you want to share that with them as well.
It seems like not going at all is not an option. If you go, you may be humiliated. If it's not feasible to do a pre-Thanksgiving enjoyable get-together with your Mom, Dad and Bubby, and skip the actual day that JT will be there with his girlfriend, then you can go this once and exit if it gets weird. Either way, you'll be blamed. No good deed goes unpunished, does it? If things are unpleasant, and your parents see it for themselves, then any holidays to follow can be shared separately with your parents. That seems like a good compromise. If your sister is offended, that would be a shame, but you're not here for her distorted entertainment. If she was a decent person, she should have your back. It's a shame that JT and your sister are manipulating both your parents and you and hijacking the real meaning of Thanksgiving. Sending understanding hugs...
