Normal
Unfortunately some of us don't ever fit well in our biological families. During holiday get togethers the same old roles and behaviors continue on from the past. For me, if I keep my expectations in check and make sure my own self esteem is strong through the holidays I fare better. I just unfortunately need to arrive prepared. They do not determine who I am today. Regarding family getting involved. That type of triangular conversing is typical of families with problems. Stressbunny it is not easy at all. I went to my granddaughters birthday party arriving at the party site while the rest of the family arrived at my daughters house and arrived together. We weren't invited. Sad and hurt. However, I must build a life that apparently won't include her at this time. They must mature to appreciate us. I can provide an ear through the holidays.