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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 395654" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>You are doing a great job. There is little else you CAN do other than smile, nod and not let her crash at your home. Insisting she behave like any other guest is a great idea - she chose not to be your child right now, to be an "adult", so she needs to be held to the standards that every other guest would follow. No way would you allow another guest to go crash with-o asking. I would not even let her go up to her old room unsupervised. It simply isn't hers anymore. You might think about packing up her stuff and making her old room into your new study or craft room. It could go back if she was to chose rehab and home, and would send a CLEAR message that she does NOT live there anymore. in my opinion she is trying to have her cake and eat it too - wanting her "freedom" but also wanting the luxury of having you support her and drive her around. I would NOT give her rides unless it is in YOUR best interest.</p><p> </p><p>I hope she hits bottom soon. I have a feeling that unless she finds some very new people to mooch off of, she is going to end up homeless because her friends will NOT want to support her, nor will they be able to support her! I hoep it helps her see how she needs to change. In the meantime are you going to AlAnon meetings? They will provide awesome support as you wait for her to hit bottom.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 395654, member: 1233"] You are doing a great job. There is little else you CAN do other than smile, nod and not let her crash at your home. Insisting she behave like any other guest is a great idea - she chose not to be your child right now, to be an "adult", so she needs to be held to the standards that every other guest would follow. No way would you allow another guest to go crash with-o asking. I would not even let her go up to her old room unsupervised. It simply isn't hers anymore. You might think about packing up her stuff and making her old room into your new study or craft room. It could go back if she was to chose rehab and home, and would send a CLEAR message that she does NOT live there anymore. in my opinion she is trying to have her cake and eat it too - wanting her "freedom" but also wanting the luxury of having you support her and drive her around. I would NOT give her rides unless it is in YOUR best interest. I hope she hits bottom soon. I have a feeling that unless she finds some very new people to mooch off of, she is going to end up homeless because her friends will NOT want to support her, nor will they be able to support her! I hoep it helps her see how she needs to change. In the meantime are you going to AlAnon meetings? They will provide awesome support as you wait for her to hit bottom. [/QUOTE]
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