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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 388639" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Exactly what I was trying to say earlier. Picking up so that I can pay somebody to clean? I'd be steamed!!!</p><p> </p><p>And the things you might do to discipline a child are different (or at least I hope they are different) than the way you deal with a spouse. I could see pawning/selling/giving away my child's things - but not my husband's things...and really, what would that do to your marriage other than start a huge fight?</p><p> </p><p>Rather - I wonder whether you need to break this "chores" thing down into really small steps?</p><p> </p><p>I've never known a man to refuse a simple, direct request...such as "Honey, would you please take out the garbage?"</p><p> </p><p>If you don't ask at the right time, you might get a "I'll get to it later..." in which case, you just ask again later....just as sweetly as you asked the first time. But I've never known a man to say NO in response to a simple request to help.</p><p> </p><p>I don't know whether you are already doing this in your household - but I feel like a lot of what you are posting are the things your husband didn't notice, or he "missed" or he didn't do the "implied task". For example, when you asked him to put in a load of laundry and remove the clothes from the dryer - technically, he did exactly what you said....he just didn't do the <em>implied </em> task of folding and putting away the clean clothes.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 388639, member: 6546"] Exactly what I was trying to say earlier. Picking up so that I can pay somebody to clean? I'd be steamed!!! And the things you might do to discipline a child are different (or at least I hope they are different) than the way you deal with a spouse. I could see pawning/selling/giving away my child's things - but not my husband's things...and really, what would that do to your marriage other than start a huge fight? Rather - I wonder whether you need to break this "chores" thing down into really small steps? I've never known a man to refuse a simple, direct request...such as "Honey, would you please take out the garbage?" If you don't ask at the right time, you might get a "I'll get to it later..." in which case, you just ask again later....just as sweetly as you asked the first time. But I've never known a man to say NO in response to a simple request to help. I don't know whether you are already doing this in your household - but I feel like a lot of what you are posting are the things your husband didn't notice, or he "missed" or he didn't do the "implied task". For example, when you asked him to put in a load of laundry and remove the clothes from the dryer - technically, he did exactly what you said....he just didn't do the [I]implied [/I] task of folding and putting away the clean clothes. [/QUOTE]
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