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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 420290" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Take it for what it's worth - </p><p> </p><p>He went to his probation officer - </p><p>He's staying in contact with A family member, not alienating everyone</p><p>You and DF ARE on the same page and have agreements at this point (college, health insurance, living on his own) </p><p> </p><p>Keep the faith that maybe husband has seen the light and won't be the enabler this time because he knows if he does? All the work of the last few months will go right down to square one again. Find a way to explain that to him or drag him to an AA meeting NOT an Alanon meeting - let him hear it from former addicts, not other suffering parents. AA helped me way more than Alanon did. It gave me a birds eye view instead of sitting around listening to other people that I did. When I heard how addicts thought of their enabling family members? It made me stop enabling almost over night. Alanon still made me feel pity. Addicts had a way of telling it like it is and making me see how foolish I was being and it made me angry to hear what a fool I'd been. Maybe if your husband hears life on the sober side from an addict? The light will go on. </p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 420290, member: 4964"] Take it for what it's worth - He went to his probation officer - He's staying in contact with A family member, not alienating everyone You and DF ARE on the same page and have agreements at this point (college, health insurance, living on his own) Keep the faith that maybe husband has seen the light and won't be the enabler this time because he knows if he does? All the work of the last few months will go right down to square one again. Find a way to explain that to him or drag him to an AA meeting NOT an Alanon meeting - let him hear it from former addicts, not other suffering parents. AA helped me way more than Alanon did. It gave me a birds eye view instead of sitting around listening to other people that I did. When I heard how addicts thought of their enabling family members? It made me stop enabling almost over night. Alanon still made me feel pity. Addicts had a way of telling it like it is and making me see how foolish I was being and it made me angry to hear what a fool I'd been. Maybe if your husband hears life on the sober side from an addict? The light will go on. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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