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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 161828" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I vote for you taking difficult child and going home - even if you have to leave everything behind. The uncertainty that your boyfriend has brought into your life is so bad for you and your son. I bet part of your son's behavior is that there is so much stress in the house because boyfriend is not taking responsibility seriously. He doesn't seem to be trying hard enough to make this work. A mature 28 yr old would be much more committed to getting out of and staying out of debt. Even if you do not talk about the financial stresses, your son can pick up on your stress and that stresses him.</p><p> </p><p>Do you have friends back home? You can make some by getting involved in non-profit organizations. When your son starts school, get involved with PTL. Look for a program called "Early Childhood Family Education". This has various classes for kids birth through Kindergarten that you and difficult child can attend together. You get to spend some time playing with difficult child and then some time with parents discussing various issues. I made lots of friends with kids my kids age by going through that program (I believe it may be through a public school system). </p><p> </p><p>If you belong to a church, start joining some of their events - you can often take children with - most churches try to provide family orientated programs. </p><p> </p><p>Check into headstart for your son and while he is at school, you can look for a job or even volunteer somewhere to increase your skills or just to meet people.</p><p> </p><p>Visit a playground often - maybe you can meet a new friend there. Asking for parenting advise is an easy way to start a conversation, "Oh my, I see my son is trying to budge in line, do you have any suggestions on how I can teach him to take turns?"</p><p> </p><p>Can you move into your parent's for awhile? I would leave all stuff behind (except the very precious items) and start anew. If you can stay with parents long enough to get on assistance and then find a small apartment I think you will feel better - leave the old behind and start everything new!</p><p> </p><p>You need to focus on yourself and difficult child for now. A boyfriend is too much work. Get your lives under control before worrying about having a boyfriend.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 161828, member: 5096"] I vote for you taking difficult child and going home - even if you have to leave everything behind. The uncertainty that your boyfriend has brought into your life is so bad for you and your son. I bet part of your son's behavior is that there is so much stress in the house because boyfriend is not taking responsibility seriously. He doesn't seem to be trying hard enough to make this work. A mature 28 yr old would be much more committed to getting out of and staying out of debt. Even if you do not talk about the financial stresses, your son can pick up on your stress and that stresses him. Do you have friends back home? You can make some by getting involved in non-profit organizations. When your son starts school, get involved with PTL. Look for a program called "Early Childhood Family Education". This has various classes for kids birth through Kindergarten that you and difficult child can attend together. You get to spend some time playing with difficult child and then some time with parents discussing various issues. I made lots of friends with kids my kids age by going through that program (I believe it may be through a public school system). If you belong to a church, start joining some of their events - you can often take children with - most churches try to provide family orientated programs. Check into headstart for your son and while he is at school, you can look for a job or even volunteer somewhere to increase your skills or just to meet people. Visit a playground often - maybe you can meet a new friend there. Asking for parenting advise is an easy way to start a conversation, "Oh my, I see my son is trying to budge in line, do you have any suggestions on how I can teach him to take turns?" Can you move into your parent's for awhile? I would leave all stuff behind (except the very precious items) and start anew. If you can stay with parents long enough to get on assistance and then find a small apartment I think you will feel better - leave the old behind and start everything new! You need to focus on yourself and difficult child for now. A boyfriend is too much work. Get your lives under control before worrying about having a boyfriend. [/QUOTE]
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