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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 746531" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>I brought my son to a child neurologist when he was 5 and the doctor noted that he had one marker of fetal alcohol syndrome, an inner eye fold.</p><p></p><p>I don't doubt one minute his birth mother drank if she wanted too. </p><p></p><p>I believed we could overcome everything, which was a form of denial. I did the very best I could. </p><p></p><p>What I regret is perhaps if I had been more realistic I would have put in place a support system for my son like SWOT did for Sonic, in the first place. But unrealistically I expected him to have a normal launching. </p><p></p><p>I do not necessarily expect my son to want to come home. But I feel better putting it on the table. I had a talk today with M who says I need to change a whole lot before I will be ready to deal with my son back home. </p><p></p><p>I think the major issue I have is boundaries and problem solving, instead of staying present and strong, I kind of dissolve in a puddle of overwhelm and emotion. I think I really kind of go into a traumatized state.</p><p></p><p>But I am between the devil and the deep blue sea, here. I have no good option here.</p><p></p><p>M mentioned today he needed to go to the consulate in order to arrange his papers for Mexico. He has not spoken about going back, and says it is not his plan, but he wants to be ready if he has to. His mother is quite old and he fears the end is near.</p><p></p><p>This is overwhelming to me. That I am alone, without the support and care of M and then with my son in the situation he is in, feels to me to be impossibly sad for me. But what can I do?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 746531, member: 18958"] I brought my son to a child neurologist when he was 5 and the doctor noted that he had one marker of fetal alcohol syndrome, an inner eye fold. I don't doubt one minute his birth mother drank if she wanted too. I believed we could overcome everything, which was a form of denial. I did the very best I could. What I regret is perhaps if I had been more realistic I would have put in place a support system for my son like SWOT did for Sonic, in the first place. But unrealistically I expected him to have a normal launching. I do not necessarily expect my son to want to come home. But I feel better putting it on the table. I had a talk today with M who says I need to change a whole lot before I will be ready to deal with my son back home. I think the major issue I have is boundaries and problem solving, instead of staying present and strong, I kind of dissolve in a puddle of overwhelm and emotion. I think I really kind of go into a traumatized state. But I am between the devil and the deep blue sea, here. I have no good option here. M mentioned today he needed to go to the consulate in order to arrange his papers for Mexico. He has not spoken about going back, and says it is not his plan, but he wants to be ready if he has to. His mother is quite old and he fears the end is near. This is overwhelming to me. That I am alone, without the support and care of M and then with my son in the situation he is in, feels to me to be impossibly sad for me. But what can I do? [/QUOTE]
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