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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 746583" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Copa I've tried to catch up but I'm at work and between hearings so I haven't much time. I can feel your stress and distress over this whole situation. I grabbed snippets that caught my attention and I'm just going to respond with my thoughts to those.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'd suggest CODA (Co-dependents anonymous) instead of AA. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I'm not convinced this is a bad thing. Copa, try looking at it this way - he's pretty much made it through the winter. Mild as they are where you live, isn't that one of the big stressors? Him being out in the cold and homeless? He's shown he CAN survive on his own, for months now. He's not helpless. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Why? Why would that make YOU feel bad, that your son had to pay something for a place to sleep? I don't care if it is a truck. It's a relatively secure, warm, dry place. He's not in the open. He's not on the ground. It's not HIS so he has to rent the space. What's wrong with that? I mean, as long as it's not hundreds of dollars, doesn't everyone have to pay for a place to sleep? </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Yeah...but you would have a security deposit and you could sue them for excess damages. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>You have no control over J. Or M. You DO have control over yourself. You just have to find it my friend. Easier said than done. </p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Totally agree with SWOT. Sounds like J and M really have usually gotten along. Unlike Jabber and my son, where I really had to play peacemaker a lot of the time because our son was so antagonistic, J doesn't sound like the type of play the alpha male and go nose to nose with M. I think they'd sort it out one way or another. </p><p></p><p>I wish I had more time to give your situation the thought it deserves Copa....<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 746583, member: 17309"] Copa I've tried to catch up but I'm at work and between hearings so I haven't much time. I can feel your stress and distress over this whole situation. I grabbed snippets that caught my attention and I'm just going to respond with my thoughts to those. I'd suggest CODA (Co-dependents anonymous) instead of AA. I'm not convinced this is a bad thing. Copa, try looking at it this way - he's pretty much made it through the winter. Mild as they are where you live, isn't that one of the big stressors? Him being out in the cold and homeless? He's shown he CAN survive on his own, for months now. He's not helpless. Why? Why would that make YOU feel bad, that your son had to pay something for a place to sleep? I don't care if it is a truck. It's a relatively secure, warm, dry place. He's not in the open. He's not on the ground. It's not HIS so he has to rent the space. What's wrong with that? I mean, as long as it's not hundreds of dollars, doesn't everyone have to pay for a place to sleep? Yeah...but you would have a security deposit and you could sue them for excess damages. You have no control over J. Or M. You DO have control over yourself. You just have to find it my friend. Easier said than done. Totally agree with SWOT. Sounds like J and M really have usually gotten along. Unlike Jabber and my son, where I really had to play peacemaker a lot of the time because our son was so antagonistic, J doesn't sound like the type of play the alpha male and go nose to nose with M. I think they'd sort it out one way or another. I wish I had more time to give your situation the thought it deserves Copa....:hugs: [/QUOTE]
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