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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 193070" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Susie, </p><p> </p><p>I am so sorry. I wish I knew what to say - like he's a nimrod or a klingon that would make it better - but I think I would just let it go. </p><p> </p><p>At what point I guess do you ask yourself - Okay we've been married for X amt. of years and you know nothing about us and it STARTS to bother you? My first marriage was ALL about my x and HIS problems, HIS life, HIS woes, HIS needs, HIS wants.....and after a while year 10 in 13 - I finally said I need to do something for ME. So I got counseling. I asked him/begged him to go. He said no, then forbid me to go. So I did what he had been doing for years about drugs, booze, other women, money, jobs, and lied too. I went to counseling, I got help.....I put my life in perspective and left. </p><p> </p><p>I've been gone from that life for nearly 10 years. I'm glad I did something for me, and by that I don't necessarily mean leaving your husband....but I DO mean find a life outside of the one you have now IF he doesn't want to be part of yours. If he's just acting like a paycheck and another mouth to feed, body to clean up after and makes more chores than he helps with? I'd either push counseling or just continue to live my life without acknowledging it and if he wants to be part of the fun - allow him. If not? You aren't living a life and going stangnant waiting for him to care. </p><p> </p><p>I think one of the greatest pains in my life is loving someone and caring about them and NOT having that feeling reciprocated.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 193070, member: 4964"] Susie, I am so sorry. I wish I knew what to say - like he's a nimrod or a klingon that would make it better - but I think I would just let it go. At what point I guess do you ask yourself - Okay we've been married for X amt. of years and you know nothing about us and it STARTS to bother you? My first marriage was ALL about my x and HIS problems, HIS life, HIS woes, HIS needs, HIS wants.....and after a while year 10 in 13 - I finally said I need to do something for ME. So I got counseling. I asked him/begged him to go. He said no, then forbid me to go. So I did what he had been doing for years about drugs, booze, other women, money, jobs, and lied too. I went to counseling, I got help.....I put my life in perspective and left. I've been gone from that life for nearly 10 years. I'm glad I did something for me, and by that I don't necessarily mean leaving your husband....but I DO mean find a life outside of the one you have now IF he doesn't want to be part of yours. If he's just acting like a paycheck and another mouth to feed, body to clean up after and makes more chores than he helps with? I'd either push counseling or just continue to live my life without acknowledging it and if he wants to be part of the fun - allow him. If not? You aren't living a life and going stangnant waiting for him to care. I think one of the greatest pains in my life is loving someone and caring about them and NOT having that feeling reciprocated. [/QUOTE]
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