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He found his birthfamily. No wonder we don't count.
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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 227085" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Thanks again. When this first happened it was devastating. It's truly not anymore. I realize that being adopted at six was not the same as coming as an infant and he needed to find his identity. I don't think finding his birthfamily is really the reason he isn't speaking to us. He stopped before he found them. He was always very thoughtful and introspective and searching, searching, searching for his identity. He strongly identifies with his Chinese heritage and has no caucasian friends or contacts anymore. He and his Chinese wife only eat Chinese food. And they are so steeped in their church that they go every day, even after a hard day's work. There are many variables. We did do our best, and I'm good with that. I'm sad that he wishes we were different, but some birth kids wish their parents were different and reject them too. I wish him well on whatever journey he is on. I don't think he will come back to us, but at least I don't have to worry about him--he is financially secure and would never make bad financial choices or endanager himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 227085, member: 1550"] Thanks again. When this first happened it was devastating. It's truly not anymore. I realize that being adopted at six was not the same as coming as an infant and he needed to find his identity. I don't think finding his birthfamily is really the reason he isn't speaking to us. He stopped before he found them. He was always very thoughtful and introspective and searching, searching, searching for his identity. He strongly identifies with his Chinese heritage and has no caucasian friends or contacts anymore. He and his Chinese wife only eat Chinese food. And they are so steeped in their church that they go every day, even after a hard day's work. There are many variables. We did do our best, and I'm good with that. I'm sad that he wishes we were different, but some birth kids wish their parents were different and reject them too. I wish him well on whatever journey he is on. I don't think he will come back to us, but at least I don't have to worry about him--he is financially secure and would never make bad financial choices or endanager himself. [/QUOTE]
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