Annie (I love that name, Annie), if him being hungry gets to you, like it does/did for most of us, find out what is available in your community in the way of food for homeless people. That is what I did when I would stew over whether my son was hungry. That was hard for me to think about. Here in my town in middle America---town of about 120K people---we have a day shelter that provides breakfast and lunch 5 days a week. The Salvation Army provides dinner every single night, 7 days a week. On the weekends, on Saturday morning a church provides a breakfast, and another church a breakfast on Sunday mornings. Also he can get food stamps (if you are in U.S., not sure what other countries have) so he can buy food.
I learned this, Annie, and when he would say "I'm hungry" I would be able to say No, I'm not going to do anything.
The last time difficult child got arrested in April, he went to WalMart and stole $97 worth of merchandise because he was "hungry."
Really? I don't think so.
Getting factual information like this helps us deal with what is to come.
And Annie, Al-Anon is wonderful. It is a a true gift. Go six times before you decide if Al-Anon is for you. I would not be where I am today without it.
Warm hugs, and glad you are posting here. We get it and we care.
