Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
He left!
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 147438" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>I had to let my daughter fall before she'd pull herself up. Granted, she never let herself fall as far as your son, but she WAS an addict too, as in addicted to drugs, and she did it all and she quit. We had nothing to do with her decision, she had to make it. But, along the way, she got NO money from us, NO housing...she had to live in her brother's basement...he was the only one willing to give her one last chance, and he had strict rules she had to follow. It worked because she was ready for it to work. She had blown her driver's license and had no car so she got money by walking a block from his house to Subway and working there for a year. She was lonesome because she had no friends in a new state. But she did it. Your son isn't ready to give up drugs. You can send him to the #1 rehab in the world and he will walk out. He won't even give it a chance. But maybe, if you don't feel guilty or make it easy for him, he'll decide, like my daughter did, that he's tired of himself and WANTS to change. Maybe if he's homeless with no money, he'll get a job, because if he doesn't, he's broke. He won't starve. There are soup kitchens and shelters. I would start extremely tough love NOW. He is old enough to find a rehab that is to his liking when/if he is ready to quit using. Until then, you are doing him and yourself and your other family members no good by enabling his addictive behavior. Like my daughter tells me: "Never trust a drug addict."</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 147438, member: 1550"] I had to let my daughter fall before she'd pull herself up. Granted, she never let herself fall as far as your son, but she WAS an addict too, as in addicted to drugs, and she did it all and she quit. We had nothing to do with her decision, she had to make it. But, along the way, she got NO money from us, NO housing...she had to live in her brother's basement...he was the only one willing to give her one last chance, and he had strict rules she had to follow. It worked because she was ready for it to work. She had blown her driver's license and had no car so she got money by walking a block from his house to Subway and working there for a year. She was lonesome because she had no friends in a new state. But she did it. Your son isn't ready to give up drugs. You can send him to the #1 rehab in the world and he will walk out. He won't even give it a chance. But maybe, if you don't feel guilty or make it easy for him, he'll decide, like my daughter did, that he's tired of himself and WANTS to change. Maybe if he's homeless with no money, he'll get a job, because if he doesn't, he's broke. He won't starve. There are soup kitchens and shelters. I would start extremely tough love NOW. He is old enough to find a rehab that is to his liking when/if he is ready to quit using. Until then, you are doing him and yourself and your other family members no good by enabling his addictive behavior. Like my daughter tells me: "Never trust a drug addict." [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
He left!
Top