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<blockquote data-quote="meowbunny" data-source="post: 119063" data-attributes="member: 3626"><p>No question he should pay for the damage. For the rest, I'd apologize for losing my cool and tell him that he was still in the band and why I thought it was important that he finish at least the year and repeat that even his teacher thinks he is doing very well.</p><p> </p><p>It is hard for our kids to not get things from the very beginning. It makes many of them feel like they are failing. The concept of try, try again is just not in their mindsets. I know it wasn't in my daughter's. Some of it was the simple if it's not easy, I don't want to bother laziness. The bigger issue was the low self-esteem. Any lack of success or sour note meant total failure, not something to conquer. </p><p> </p><p>I found that letting her stop when she was frustrated was wise (piano for mine). Then, when she had calmed down, I'd have her try again. If the frustration won again, I'd have her quit for the night. It wasn't worth the pain it was causing at that point but frequently the break would do wonders.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="meowbunny, post: 119063, member: 3626"] No question he should pay for the damage. For the rest, I'd apologize for losing my cool and tell him that he was still in the band and why I thought it was important that he finish at least the year and repeat that even his teacher thinks he is doing very well. It is hard for our kids to not get things from the very beginning. It makes many of them feel like they are failing. The concept of try, try again is just not in their mindsets. I know it wasn't in my daughter's. Some of it was the simple if it's not easy, I don't want to bother laziness. The bigger issue was the low self-esteem. Any lack of success or sour note meant total failure, not something to conquer. I found that letting her stop when she was frustrated was wise (piano for mine). Then, when she had calmed down, I'd have her try again. If the frustration won again, I'd have her quit for the night. It wasn't worth the pain it was causing at that point but frequently the break would do wonders. [/QUOTE]
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