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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 487326" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>You know Terry, that is exactly what happens with my son, I do not make a huge deal out of things I dont want to see again.... sorry to say if this becomes a big event in their minds then it seems it pops in too easily. Q did it once and only once, (saying it, couldn't do it but might have). If your gut says this kid is now going to be dangerous and he does things routinely... then I would re-think about the ex etc but given your last post.... I would be worried he will fight for custody and also it will reinforce it for Carson. Negative reinforcement is so powerful. I think it can be more powerful than positive reinforcement. </p><p></p><p>It is a tough call.... Did he at all go for her? Did he really try to cut you or did he slam it in your hand because you demanded it and you accidently got cut? or did he mean to cut you. could he predict that? You dont have to answer....just things to think of.</p><p></p><p>*** we posted at the same time....so I didn't see your follow up concerns.... wow, that is heartbreaking.... Q has asked me to pray and I have heard his prayers. I think it does reinforce that they are truly out of control when that happens, they really dont want to do that. UGG what a hard thing, Sounds like it depends on how you tell ex. IF it is said in a truly over the top-you better watch out kind of way that maybe would be different than just letting them know he grabbed it impulsively and he handed it to you right away when directed to...or however it really happened. Well, you said in your first post, it could make them leave Carson put! I am sorry for this situation, Whatever you do , we are here for you.... I hope they are reasonable.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 487326, member: 12886"] You know Terry, that is exactly what happens with my son, I do not make a huge deal out of things I dont want to see again.... sorry to say if this becomes a big event in their minds then it seems it pops in too easily. Q did it once and only once, (saying it, couldn't do it but might have). If your gut says this kid is now going to be dangerous and he does things routinely... then I would re-think about the ex etc but given your last post.... I would be worried he will fight for custody and also it will reinforce it for Carson. Negative reinforcement is so powerful. I think it can be more powerful than positive reinforcement. It is a tough call.... Did he at all go for her? Did he really try to cut you or did he slam it in your hand because you demanded it and you accidently got cut? or did he mean to cut you. could he predict that? You dont have to answer....just things to think of. *** we posted at the same time....so I didn't see your follow up concerns.... wow, that is heartbreaking.... Q has asked me to pray and I have heard his prayers. I think it does reinforce that they are truly out of control when that happens, they really dont want to do that. UGG what a hard thing, Sounds like it depends on how you tell ex. IF it is said in a truly over the top-you better watch out kind of way that maybe would be different than just letting them know he grabbed it impulsively and he handed it to you right away when directed to...or however it really happened. Well, you said in your first post, it could make them leave Carson put! I am sorry for this situation, Whatever you do , we are here for you.... I hope they are reasonable. [/QUOTE]
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