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He really doesn't get it...GRRRRR...
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<blockquote data-quote="keista" data-source="post: 436286" data-attributes="member: 11965"><p>in my opinion <strong>HE</strong> does <strong>not</strong> appreciate all <strong>you</strong> do. Even though, now HE has to step up a bit and do 'your' work as well, He still does not seem to be making the connection of EVERYTHING you normally do, but now <strong>CAN'T</strong>. In his position, most ppl would realize how much you indeed do around the house. How you being "gone" would make things completely fall apart. How difficult your 'job' is. It may not be an epiphany that sticks or lasts for the long term, but should be activating sympathy and gratefulness towards YOU in the moment. <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/consoling.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":consoling:" title="consoling :consoling:" data-shortname=":consoling:" /></p><p></p><p>in my opinion, NO, he's not gonna get it. Maybe doesn't want to, maybe can't. Yea, I know he's your husband and as wife it's important an necessary to care for and nurture husband and his feelings and ego, BUT YOU NEED TO HEAL so yu can get back to doing everything you do. The only way I know how to deal with his whining (that's what it sounds like to me) is to ignore it. Maybe he should direct some of his complaints toward Miss KT - have her step up and do more, but I'm guessing she's doing as much as she is able. husband is a grown man, and god forbid anything serious happened to you, he'd have to do this all himself. So, ignore his whining, ignore what's not getting done, heal yourself, and deal with it once you are able to.</p><p></p><p>I've been there done that. When I'd get sick, husband would only step up to the barest necessities - keeping kids fed, safe and clean. Everything else would go undone, which in my house is really scary since when thing are 'taken care of' it's still not a pretty picture. I would get <strong>sympathy</strong> from husband only because he'd see things falling apart, and if he 'nurtured' me maybe I"d get better faster and start doing my 'job' again.</p><p></p><p></p><p>((((HUGS))))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="keista, post: 436286, member: 11965"] in my opinion [B]HE[/B] does [B]not[/B] appreciate all [B]you[/B] do. Even though, now HE has to step up a bit and do 'your' work as well, He still does not seem to be making the connection of EVERYTHING you normally do, but now [B]CAN'T[/B]. In his position, most ppl would realize how much you indeed do around the house. How you being "gone" would make things completely fall apart. How difficult your 'job' is. It may not be an epiphany that sticks or lasts for the long term, but should be activating sympathy and gratefulness towards YOU in the moment. :consoling: in my opinion, NO, he's not gonna get it. Maybe doesn't want to, maybe can't. Yea, I know he's your husband and as wife it's important an necessary to care for and nurture husband and his feelings and ego, BUT YOU NEED TO HEAL so yu can get back to doing everything you do. The only way I know how to deal with his whining (that's what it sounds like to me) is to ignore it. Maybe he should direct some of his complaints toward Miss KT - have her step up and do more, but I'm guessing she's doing as much as she is able. husband is a grown man, and god forbid anything serious happened to you, he'd have to do this all himself. So, ignore his whining, ignore what's not getting done, heal yourself, and deal with it once you are able to. I've been there done that. When I'd get sick, husband would only step up to the barest necessities - keeping kids fed, safe and clean. Everything else would go undone, which in my house is really scary since when thing are 'taken care of' it's still not a pretty picture. I would get [B]sympathy[/B] from husband only because he'd see things falling apart, and if he 'nurtured' me maybe I"d get better faster and start doing my 'job' again. ((((HUGS)))) [/QUOTE]
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