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<blockquote data-quote="witzend" data-source="post: 365032" data-attributes="member: 99"><p>Thanks, all. No, there are no more blow-outs with M. There haven't been for a long time. It was usually we (meaning I because husband is too passive and that I am the best speaker...) would talk, and M would sit silent, then he'd either blow and run, or stay silent and destroy our property when we weren't looking.</p><p></p><p>Even if I look at this from a best - possible - case scenario, and it is so that as M told his dad "I want to move on and find a way to be happy and to be able to get advice from you and dad", his mind is no longer formative. In reality that portion of his life was over a long time ago. He has formed his likes and dislikes and his moral compass. It's past the time for us to live throughout our daily lives and have discussions that lead to shaping his character. </p><p></p><p>Sadly, his character is that of an extremely depressed and anxiety riddled young man who looks for the negative in everything. If you can talk him into making lemonade out of the lemons, he'll drag you into a long conversation about the next and the next and the next thing that's wrong with his life. That's way over my pay grade at this point. He never listened when we tried to tell him that life could be good when he was young, and that was hard. He's 10 times worse now, and it's not just hard it's impossible.</p><p></p><p>I hope he will stay on the medications and stay in therapy. I feel awful for walking away from him, but I really do believe that he has to make these hard choices for himself at this point in his life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="witzend, post: 365032, member: 99"] Thanks, all. No, there are no more blow-outs with M. There haven't been for a long time. It was usually we (meaning I because husband is too passive and that I am the best speaker...) would talk, and M would sit silent, then he'd either blow and run, or stay silent and destroy our property when we weren't looking. Even if I look at this from a best - possible - case scenario, and it is so that as M told his dad "I want to move on and find a way to be happy and to be able to get advice from you and dad", his mind is no longer formative. In reality that portion of his life was over a long time ago. He has formed his likes and dislikes and his moral compass. It's past the time for us to live throughout our daily lives and have discussions that lead to shaping his character. Sadly, his character is that of an extremely depressed and anxiety riddled young man who looks for the negative in everything. If you can talk him into making lemonade out of the lemons, he'll drag you into a long conversation about the next and the next and the next thing that's wrong with his life. That's way over my pay grade at this point. He never listened when we tried to tell him that life could be good when he was young, and that was hard. He's 10 times worse now, and it's not just hard it's impossible. I hope he will stay on the medications and stay in therapy. I feel awful for walking away from him, but I really do believe that he has to make these hard choices for himself at this point in his life. [/QUOTE]
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