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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 349530" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I'm fine- thanks for asking. He hasn't done anything at all violent or aggressive. (TG!) But last night he confessed that the whole previous time of cutting and insinuating suicide was to get himself out of trouble. Ok. Then he included the time of this stuff when he was first incarcerated. Well, how much did that cost the county and the state? Then he said he did it because he knew it would lead me to try to get him into a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) instead of him being sent to Department of Juvenile Justice. (Wonderful.) But when he realized it wouldn';t work, he confessed it in open court- because otherwise, it would have been lying to the court/judge.<img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/faint.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":faint:" title="faint :faint:" data-shortname=":faint:" /></p><p></p><p>Ok- so let's just wipe that slate clean. Today everyone was telling him about support for his future and all these things they were willing to do to help him meet his own goals and advising difficult child NOT to tell everyone where he has been. Tonight he comes home and I let him call his old friend- that I thought was a good kid. difficult child immediately starts telling this boy everything that had happened (Never mind that difficult child had just told me if he told this boy anything, it would be like broadcasting it to the whole school), and difficult child is bragging about what all he had done- but admittedly, he said "my mom called 911 and had me arrested and locked up is no fun", but then proceeds to tell this boy what all he got up and did last night. And I'm too tic'd to even go into that. </p><p></p><p>difficult child doesn't know I heard this conversation. He's trying to lie when I am saying things to him like "this is your last chance at home; you have used me up; you have a great opportunity to make good choices or bad choices- it'sup to you"-- he is continuing to try to BS me- last night he was telling me how he had it all figured out how to look like a sweet, innocent kid who'd never do anything wrong. </p><p></p><p>OK- at this point I honestly do realize that we are talking about status offenses, or whatever they are called when it isn't an actual law that violates another's rights. I'm not wringing my hands in a pnaic attack. I am P.O. ' D.- big time. I told him they obviously released him too soon- he still needs supervision 24/7 and I can't do it. He has had great opportunities in the past and he's continuously chosen to ignore them in choice of what he thinks he knows better. I told him I would not even show up in court again if the need arises or come to any visitations. This was after he tried to put it all backon me- if hadn't ssaid ABC or done XYZ- B. S. (He went to his BR at that point.) But honestly, when you know the BiPolar (BP) diagnosis is ruled out and the kid stands there and confesses that he did that just to get you to get him out of trouble and then turns around and brags about stuff AFTER you have advocated for him getting another chance----well, can I duct tape him up now?? We won't even go into what he bragged to this boy about- that he did LAST NIGHT- knowing he had this hearing today. And these people today, along with me, are talking about how to help him meet his goals of JROTC, advanced diploma, and becoming a vet?? </p><p></p><p>He better stay in his bedroom. And there will be consequences. I'm just not sure what they will be yet- he's on house arrest already. Maybe I should tell PO that 2 weeks isn't long enough. Then- the JROTC leader from the Department of Juvenile Justice school had called so difficult child called him back and difficult child acts like everything is wonderful. Really, it's like this kid has no clue how lucky he is right now- even though he spits put these words that say that he does.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 349530, member: 3699"] I'm fine- thanks for asking. He hasn't done anything at all violent or aggressive. (TG!) But last night he confessed that the whole previous time of cutting and insinuating suicide was to get himself out of trouble. Ok. Then he included the time of this stuff when he was first incarcerated. Well, how much did that cost the county and the state? Then he said he did it because he knew it would lead me to try to get him into a Residential Treatment Center (RTC) instead of him being sent to Department of Juvenile Justice. (Wonderful.) But when he realized it wouldn';t work, he confessed it in open court- because otherwise, it would have been lying to the court/judge.:knockedout: Ok- so let's just wipe that slate clean. Today everyone was telling him about support for his future and all these things they were willing to do to help him meet his own goals and advising difficult child NOT to tell everyone where he has been. Tonight he comes home and I let him call his old friend- that I thought was a good kid. difficult child immediately starts telling this boy everything that had happened (Never mind that difficult child had just told me if he told this boy anything, it would be like broadcasting it to the whole school), and difficult child is bragging about what all he had done- but admittedly, he said "my mom called 911 and had me arrested and locked up is no fun", but then proceeds to tell this boy what all he got up and did last night. And I'm too tic'd to even go into that. difficult child doesn't know I heard this conversation. He's trying to lie when I am saying things to him like "this is your last chance at home; you have used me up; you have a great opportunity to make good choices or bad choices- it'sup to you"-- he is continuing to try to BS me- last night he was telling me how he had it all figured out how to look like a sweet, innocent kid who'd never do anything wrong. OK- at this point I honestly do realize that we are talking about status offenses, or whatever they are called when it isn't an actual law that violates another's rights. I'm not wringing my hands in a pnaic attack. I am P.O. ' D.- big time. I told him they obviously released him too soon- he still needs supervision 24/7 and I can't do it. He has had great opportunities in the past and he's continuously chosen to ignore them in choice of what he thinks he knows better. I told him I would not even show up in court again if the need arises or come to any visitations. This was after he tried to put it all backon me- if hadn't ssaid ABC or done XYZ- B. S. (He went to his BR at that point.) But honestly, when you know the BiPolar (BP) diagnosis is ruled out and the kid stands there and confesses that he did that just to get you to get him out of trouble and then turns around and brags about stuff AFTER you have advocated for him getting another chance----well, can I duct tape him up now?? We won't even go into what he bragged to this boy about- that he did LAST NIGHT- knowing he had this hearing today. And these people today, along with me, are talking about how to help him meet his goals of JROTC, advanced diploma, and becoming a vet?? He better stay in his bedroom. And there will be consequences. I'm just not sure what they will be yet- he's on house arrest already. Maybe I should tell PO that 2 weeks isn't long enough. Then- the JROTC leader from the Department of Juvenile Justice school had called so difficult child called him back and difficult child acts like everything is wonderful. Really, it's like this kid has no clue how lucky he is right now- even though he spits put these words that say that he does. [/QUOTE]
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