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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 349600" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Hope difficult child stayed in his room last night.</p><p></p><p>You know, I just don't know about this k. On the one hand, difficult child is letting you know how he manipulated everyone - he's talking - is it guilt or more manipulation - I don't know. But I do know that his bravado with his friends is typical. He's feeling like the tough guy because he's "been there and back" and probably feels like it will get him attention. Obviously teens don't place the same "negativity" on this stuff that we do.</p><p></p><p>Should you meet a friend at the grocer you are not going to immediately tell him where difficult child spent the lat 15 months. But I can really see kids his age using this as a way to get his name out there and have kids look at him with awe - go figure the mind set. I don't believe you telling him not to tell anyone and his telling someone who used to be his buddy is a difficult child thing - kids are going to talk and share stuff we just don't want to know about!</p><p></p><p>One thing that bothers me is his placing some of the responsibility on you for this matter. What happened to the "I brought this all upon myself" stuff he talked about in letters and on the phone with you? Manipulation?....... As far as the 242/7 supervision, I kinda thought you were pushing for difficult child to come home now. Certainly you can't be his "jailer" but you can let him know in no uncertain terms that since he is on house arrest, school is the only legitimate reason he is out of the house and you are obligated by law to report an offenses. Would he rather you were thrown in jail?</p><p></p><p>I think it's a lot of pressure for him right now, just as it is for you. This is like a bright new world for him. The pressure of getting into ROTC and an advanced diploma, which means more academic core classes than a standard diploma, might be too much. As the mother of a child who got an advanced diploma, I can tell you that certainly it is helpful for college admission, but more helpful is a higher grade point average and well-roundedness. And vet school, well it's harder to get in than medical school! Do you think the bar might be just a tad too high at this point? Not meaning that he can't do it, just that the stress of achieving so high might be counterproductive?</p><p></p><p>Oh, go ahead and duct tape him!</p><p></p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 349600, member: 805"] Hope difficult child stayed in his room last night. You know, I just don't know about this k. On the one hand, difficult child is letting you know how he manipulated everyone - he's talking - is it guilt or more manipulation - I don't know. But I do know that his bravado with his friends is typical. He's feeling like the tough guy because he's "been there and back" and probably feels like it will get him attention. Obviously teens don't place the same "negativity" on this stuff that we do. Should you meet a friend at the grocer you are not going to immediately tell him where difficult child spent the lat 15 months. But I can really see kids his age using this as a way to get his name out there and have kids look at him with awe - go figure the mind set. I don't believe you telling him not to tell anyone and his telling someone who used to be his buddy is a difficult child thing - kids are going to talk and share stuff we just don't want to know about! One thing that bothers me is his placing some of the responsibility on you for this matter. What happened to the "I brought this all upon myself" stuff he talked about in letters and on the phone with you? Manipulation?....... As far as the 242/7 supervision, I kinda thought you were pushing for difficult child to come home now. Certainly you can't be his "jailer" but you can let him know in no uncertain terms that since he is on house arrest, school is the only legitimate reason he is out of the house and you are obligated by law to report an offenses. Would he rather you were thrown in jail? I think it's a lot of pressure for him right now, just as it is for you. This is like a bright new world for him. The pressure of getting into ROTC and an advanced diploma, which means more academic core classes than a standard diploma, might be too much. As the mother of a child who got an advanced diploma, I can tell you that certainly it is helpful for college admission, but more helpful is a higher grade point average and well-roundedness. And vet school, well it's harder to get in than medical school! Do you think the bar might be just a tad too high at this point? Not meaning that he can't do it, just that the stress of achieving so high might be counterproductive? Oh, go ahead and duct tape him! Sharon [/QUOTE]
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