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<blockquote data-quote="Bunny" data-source="post: 484115"><p>Welcome to the board, Emjay.</p><p></p><p>First I want to say that I am so sorry that you found that blog entry and, even worse, that it was a family member who wrote it. Things like that are very hurtful. This is not your fault in any way, shape, or form. NOT YOUR FAULT!! It has taken me a very long time to really get that through my head because for so long I was told that if I was a better mother, or that if I mothered him properly difficult child would be better behaved. Yes, it was very hurtful (especially from the person it came from) and it did nothing to help my son. It just made the hole that I was in alot harder to get out of. People who do not have difficult child type kids, or who have no kids at all, just don't get what it's like the be the parent of a difficult child, and the stress and anxiety that go along with it.</p><p></p><p>My son has a diagnosis of general anxiety disorder and ODD. Personally, I have come to think that the ODD diagnosis is really just a label that was placed on him when they could not figure out why he is so defiant and disrespectful towards me (and to a lesser extent, his father). I think that alot of work with the therapist has started to peel back some of the layers in order to get to whatever is really bothering him. Jealousy, resentment, anger, and anxiety all play a role in his behaviors.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Bunny, post: 484115"] Welcome to the board, Emjay. First I want to say that I am so sorry that you found that blog entry and, even worse, that it was a family member who wrote it. Things like that are very hurtful. This is not your fault in any way, shape, or form. NOT YOUR FAULT!! It has taken me a very long time to really get that through my head because for so long I was told that if I was a better mother, or that if I mothered him properly difficult child would be better behaved. Yes, it was very hurtful (especially from the person it came from) and it did nothing to help my son. It just made the hole that I was in alot harder to get out of. People who do not have difficult child type kids, or who have no kids at all, just don't get what it's like the be the parent of a difficult child, and the stress and anxiety that go along with it. My son has a diagnosis of general anxiety disorder and ODD. Personally, I have come to think that the ODD diagnosis is really just a label that was placed on him when they could not figure out why he is so defiant and disrespectful towards me (and to a lesser extent, his father). I think that alot of work with the therapist has started to peel back some of the layers in order to get to whatever is really bothering him. Jealousy, resentment, anger, and anxiety all play a role in his behaviors. [/QUOTE]
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