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<blockquote data-quote="LittleDudesMom" data-source="post: 338017" data-attributes="member: 805"><p>Hi Mary,</p><p> </p><p>at this point, I would agree with pepper - wondering if your limited dollars would be better spent on a complete evaluation for your son. Sounds like, with the past diagnosis of mood disorder, he is unstable. Mood stabilizers might be an option. Very often you can contact the drug companies and get help paying for them. Check with your son's doctor.</p><p> </p><p>Does your son have an IEP at school? Sounds like he's had some behavior issues in the past. Does he have a Behavior Intervention Plan (BIP)? If he has no supports in place at school, I would suggest you request an IEP meeting with the purpose of your son having testing done to see if he qualifies for some accomodations and modifications. Additionally, you should request a Functional Behavioral Analysis (FBA) which will result in a BIP.</p><p> </p><p>Please check out our Special Education forum and Special Education archives for assistance on requesting testing at school.</p><p> </p><p>I know this is heartbreaking for and your husband. It is just as likely to be as hard, if not harder, for your son. In regards to punishment - a question. When you say he assaulted a girl who was teasing him and the bus driver, exactly what are you talking about? Did he attack the girl, bus driver intervene and then he began hitting and kicking the bus driver?</p><p> </p><p>For many of us, if the child gets consequences at school our motto is "what happens in school stays in school". But when violence towards others happens, all bets are off. I think the punishment needs to be individual here. Ours was "nothing that has an on switch is allowed for X number of days" He is a gamer and that took away the tv, game systems, hand held systems, music, etc. It worked for us.</p><p> </p><p>But with a son who may be unstable, who may have been handled in an inappropriate manner, may have escalated due to unfair or biased treatment, was overwhelmed by an adult putting their hands on him, and not really knowing the exact circumstances yet, I would suggest wait unitl Monday. I would request to see the tape from the bus before hearing anyone's side of the story. Then I would hear from the eye witnesses. I would not have my son be present. You really can't know what's going to happen at this point. Expulsion should not be an option because we are not talking about weapons. Suspension is a probable option. Did the police give you an indication that your son was calm when they got there or still in the throes of violence? </p><p> </p><p>Sounds like you have a lot to consider. I would do myself to keep my son calm. I would let him know you love him. I would let him know you will discuss it more once you meet with the school on Monday. I would sit with him, perhaps tomorrow afternoon, and get a clear and calm explanation from him as to what happened. </p><p> </p><p>Glad you are here.</p><p> </p><p>Sharon</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="LittleDudesMom, post: 338017, member: 805"] Hi Mary, at this point, I would agree with pepper - wondering if your limited dollars would be better spent on a complete evaluation for your son. Sounds like, with the past diagnosis of mood disorder, he is unstable. Mood stabilizers might be an option. Very often you can contact the drug companies and get help paying for them. Check with your son's doctor. Does your son have an IEP at school? Sounds like he's had some behavior issues in the past. Does he have a Behavior Intervention Plan (BIP)? If he has no supports in place at school, I would suggest you request an IEP meeting with the purpose of your son having testing done to see if he qualifies for some accomodations and modifications. Additionally, you should request a Functional Behavioral Analysis (FBA) which will result in a BIP. Please check out our Special Education forum and Special Education archives for assistance on requesting testing at school. I know this is heartbreaking for and your husband. It is just as likely to be as hard, if not harder, for your son. In regards to punishment - a question. When you say he assaulted a girl who was teasing him and the bus driver, exactly what are you talking about? Did he attack the girl, bus driver intervene and then he began hitting and kicking the bus driver? For many of us, if the child gets consequences at school our motto is "what happens in school stays in school". But when violence towards others happens, all bets are off. I think the punishment needs to be individual here. Ours was "nothing that has an on switch is allowed for X number of days" He is a gamer and that took away the tv, game systems, hand held systems, music, etc. It worked for us. But with a son who may be unstable, who may have been handled in an inappropriate manner, may have escalated due to unfair or biased treatment, was overwhelmed by an adult putting their hands on him, and not really knowing the exact circumstances yet, I would suggest wait unitl Monday. I would request to see the tape from the bus before hearing anyone's side of the story. Then I would hear from the eye witnesses. I would not have my son be present. You really can't know what's going to happen at this point. Expulsion should not be an option because we are not talking about weapons. Suspension is a probable option. Did the police give you an indication that your son was calm when they got there or still in the throes of violence? Sounds like you have a lot to consider. I would do myself to keep my son calm. I would let him know you love him. I would let him know you will discuss it more once you meet with the school on Monday. I would sit with him, perhaps tomorrow afternoon, and get a clear and calm explanation from him as to what happened. Glad you are here. Sharon [/QUOTE]
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