I'm new here and need some help. Husband and myself greeted yesterday afternoon by 2 deputies that escorted our 10 year old son from his bus after an incident in which he lost control and started to assault a girl who was taunting him and then the bus driver.
Back story-DS diag with odd/mood disorder about 2 years ago. We started family and one on one counseling and then decided to stop due to job lose and no insurance. Prior to being diag he was diag with adhd and we went through a series of medications,adderall,startera and ritilian. While on those drugs he seemed to be more aggressive and had terrible night terrors and just seemed all together out of it. My husband and I became very concerned that the drugs were enhancing his moods and aggression so we bailed all drugs.
Recently at school this year he has had an academic turn around with his first male teacher and only one incident at school besides the bus yesterday. We fully expect for DS to be expelled when we go to school to talk on Mon, but hope they would consider letting him continue with school with us transporting him from now on.
Regardless, we plan on starting with counseling right away and figure out how to pay later. Our son has always had a very sweet side and then the not so sweet side. Mornings have always been a huge problem for us and have worked through ways to adapt. However, if he gets angry he totally wacks out and it's as if he's not there and doesn't know whats happening. He's punched me several times and throw things. He says he doesn't remember hitting the girl or bus driver, hopefully the tape will shed some light on what exactly happened.
My husband has ALWAYS tried to instill that you don't HIT and especially not GIRLS, but he never seems to get it. There is a definite disconnect with him. He does feel remorse and was extremely scared. I mean really, how often does a 10 year old get hauled off a bus and escorted home in a cop car for assault. Tears.....now......
What type of punishment is appropriate? We have never ever spanked and don't feel that's an option. When getting in trouble we've been consistent in taking things away that he loves to do but really don't know what to do in this case.
Does anyone out there have a son around the same age going through similar things? Please let me know what worked for you and what didn't. Also worth mentioning, he has allergies, we havent seen a neurogist or had bloodwork tested.
A sincere THANK YOU!
Mary
Back story-DS diag with odd/mood disorder about 2 years ago. We started family and one on one counseling and then decided to stop due to job lose and no insurance. Prior to being diag he was diag with adhd and we went through a series of medications,adderall,startera and ritilian. While on those drugs he seemed to be more aggressive and had terrible night terrors and just seemed all together out of it. My husband and I became very concerned that the drugs were enhancing his moods and aggression so we bailed all drugs.
Recently at school this year he has had an academic turn around with his first male teacher and only one incident at school besides the bus yesterday. We fully expect for DS to be expelled when we go to school to talk on Mon, but hope they would consider letting him continue with school with us transporting him from now on.
Regardless, we plan on starting with counseling right away and figure out how to pay later. Our son has always had a very sweet side and then the not so sweet side. Mornings have always been a huge problem for us and have worked through ways to adapt. However, if he gets angry he totally wacks out and it's as if he's not there and doesn't know whats happening. He's punched me several times and throw things. He says he doesn't remember hitting the girl or bus driver, hopefully the tape will shed some light on what exactly happened.
My husband has ALWAYS tried to instill that you don't HIT and especially not GIRLS, but he never seems to get it. There is a definite disconnect with him. He does feel remorse and was extremely scared. I mean really, how often does a 10 year old get hauled off a bus and escorted home in a cop car for assault. Tears.....now......
What type of punishment is appropriate? We have never ever spanked and don't feel that's an option. When getting in trouble we've been consistent in taking things away that he loves to do but really don't know what to do in this case.
Does anyone out there have a son around the same age going through similar things? Please let me know what worked for you and what didn't. Also worth mentioning, he has allergies, we havent seen a neurogist or had bloodwork tested.
A sincere THANK YOU!
Mary