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<blockquote data-quote="Star*" data-source="post: 332957" data-attributes="member: 4964"><p>Hi Red Chief, </p><p></p><p>Welcome to the board. Thanks for being so thorough and open about what is going on in your lives. Your daughter sounds like she's really having a tough time of it. Between the medications and the inpatient stays I haven't read anything about her seeing a therapist. This could help you all a tremendous lot. For a few reasons. One, problems don't get fixed by ignoring them and a therapist is a good person to go to once a week to kind of recap a bad week, blow it out, and get some viable solutions to work on all the next week. The younger you get the kids into therapy the more it becomes a habit, and by the time she's into her teens? The easier it will be for her to open up to someone. Mostly because it's not going to be you or wife. Just FYI. </p><p>Two, if you have a therapist "card" you can use that with the school system and play it. Sorry to say but it's a good one to have. "Yes we're working with her therapist. Oh I'm sorry she trashed a portable, I'll speak with her therapist Thursday evening. Would you like to talk to her therapist? Can her therapist attend the meeting about her BIP (Behavior Intervention Plan) on Monday?" It's all sort of relative and a little bit of political, but if you start stacking good people in her corner that are really going to be THERE for her? It helps a lot. The more professional people that are THERE for her? The less chance you have of her being railroaded, thrown out of school by the school or ---not being given the opportunity that I'm thinking you may have not been given that you need to check into which I'm going to tell you about now. </p><p></p><p>See my son was so unruly HE trashed a school portable, had been suspended and was sent home. When we went back for his re-admittance hearing they told me they didn't want him back even at the alternative school. Here's the HUGE problem with that. I had to work and my fiance was home recovering from his back surgery and 110% disabled and in no way shape or form able to watch Dude. I have no family here in SC, we were black listed from every single day care and private school was not even a financial option. So this meant what? Home, alone at 13? So I called the school and they said "So sad, too bad." I got out my copy of FAPE (Free and Proper Education) and read something to the effect that the school HAD to provide education for him. So the counselor suggested an IN HOME 1/2 a day SCHOOL PROVIDED teacher. </p><p></p><p>IT WAS WONDERFUL. I set up a classroom in my dining room. She came around 8:30 - then I left for work. She stayed until around 2:30, took a lunch and was there M-F. This went on for six months, the district paid for it and she was a former special education teacher they kept for just such occasions. OMG - how awesome was that. He was home schooled at the school district's expense. When he COULD go 1/2 days to self-contained? He went to the afternoon class and the bus came to the house and brought him home. She would come in the morning, then he would catch the bus and finished out the school year in full-days of school. </p><p></p><p>It's worth a shot. It's also worth THEM paying for it - especially so you could go to work NOW.....Less stress for her too. She gets 'weaned' back into self-contained school and you sit and write her behavior intervention plan or BIP with the in home teacher who gets to sit with her one on one. Oh and lest I forget. When she DOES go back to public school? If she NEEDS a shadow for more one on one help to keep her in check (like if she needs to leave the class room or something) this is ALSO paid for by the School District. </p><p></p><p>Just a thought. </p><p>Hope it helps</p><p>From one Native American to Another - Blackfoot Nation <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Star*, post: 332957, member: 4964"] Hi Red Chief, Welcome to the board. Thanks for being so thorough and open about what is going on in your lives. Your daughter sounds like she's really having a tough time of it. Between the medications and the inpatient stays I haven't read anything about her seeing a therapist. This could help you all a tremendous lot. For a few reasons. One, problems don't get fixed by ignoring them and a therapist is a good person to go to once a week to kind of recap a bad week, blow it out, and get some viable solutions to work on all the next week. The younger you get the kids into therapy the more it becomes a habit, and by the time she's into her teens? The easier it will be for her to open up to someone. Mostly because it's not going to be you or wife. Just FYI. Two, if you have a therapist "card" you can use that with the school system and play it. Sorry to say but it's a good one to have. "Yes we're working with her therapist. Oh I'm sorry she trashed a portable, I'll speak with her therapist Thursday evening. Would you like to talk to her therapist? Can her therapist attend the meeting about her BIP (Behavior Intervention Plan) on Monday?" It's all sort of relative and a little bit of political, but if you start stacking good people in her corner that are really going to be THERE for her? It helps a lot. The more professional people that are THERE for her? The less chance you have of her being railroaded, thrown out of school by the school or ---not being given the opportunity that I'm thinking you may have not been given that you need to check into which I'm going to tell you about now. See my son was so unruly HE trashed a school portable, had been suspended and was sent home. When we went back for his re-admittance hearing they told me they didn't want him back even at the alternative school. Here's the HUGE problem with that. I had to work and my fiance was home recovering from his back surgery and 110% disabled and in no way shape or form able to watch Dude. I have no family here in SC, we were black listed from every single day care and private school was not even a financial option. So this meant what? Home, alone at 13? So I called the school and they said "So sad, too bad." I got out my copy of FAPE (Free and Proper Education) and read something to the effect that the school HAD to provide education for him. So the counselor suggested an IN HOME 1/2 a day SCHOOL PROVIDED teacher. IT WAS WONDERFUL. I set up a classroom in my dining room. She came around 8:30 - then I left for work. She stayed until around 2:30, took a lunch and was there M-F. This went on for six months, the district paid for it and she was a former special education teacher they kept for just such occasions. OMG - how awesome was that. He was home schooled at the school district's expense. When he COULD go 1/2 days to self-contained? He went to the afternoon class and the bus came to the house and brought him home. She would come in the morning, then he would catch the bus and finished out the school year in full-days of school. It's worth a shot. It's also worth THEM paying for it - especially so you could go to work NOW.....Less stress for her too. She gets 'weaned' back into self-contained school and you sit and write her behavior intervention plan or BIP with the in home teacher who gets to sit with her one on one. Oh and lest I forget. When she DOES go back to public school? If she NEEDS a shadow for more one on one help to keep her in check (like if she needs to leave the class room or something) this is ALSO paid for by the School District. Just a thought. Hope it helps From one Native American to Another - Blackfoot Nation :winking: [/QUOTE]
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