Hi all,
Just wanted to introduce myself, and say thanks. I've lurked around this board for a bit & I've gotten good tips, and I'm sure I'll get good advice for any questions I ask.
About me: I am a 38 yo stay at home dad. I was diagnosed with ADD (or whatever they called it back in 1981) as a child. I was put on Ritalin. I think I stayed on it too long as it totally messed up my personality. I went from being very outgoing & social to being very shy and a loner. Because of my experience I swore I would never put any child of mine on medications.
wife works 2 jobs to make ends meet. She has always had mental issues due to things I'm not at liberty to discuss. She is currently diagnosed with adult ADD and anxiety, so she gets Concerta & lots of Xanax to deal
easy child is a 20 yo college student. She moved out a couple of years ago, so we only see her when she needs something.
difficult child is a 10 yo girl. She was first diagnosed with ODD at 6. About a year ago she was tested again. The ODD diagnosis still stayed, but they also determined that she had ADD/ADHD. She was put on Abilify and Adderall. Our biggest issues have been with getting the right medications and school.
Thru first grade, she went to a public charter school. She generally did OK. Teachers had problems with her staying seated, getting work done, and with lying & stealing.
For 2-4th we put her in public schools. Even with a 504 program, it was a disaster. I'm going to leave out the details, but it ended on a day last February when she trashed an office (among other things), and bit & kicked a teacher. We were told that she would be expelled at the next incident. There were incidents every day, so it was a matter of when, not if, so we decided to pull her out. Then wife and her decided on a nice little private christian school. Because of her lack of education during the school year, they put her back into 3rd grade.
Things went really well last school year & for the first 2 months of this year, but her grades started slipping starting just after Haloween. The teacher & principal started complaining about some of the things she did, like inappropriate talk. Just after T-giving, the principal started mentioning expulsion if she didn't improve, so we & her therapist decided to enroll her in an outpatient mental health facility. They changed her medications a little (changed Adderall to Vyvanse & added Concerta) and gave her lots of therapy about her compulsive behaviors. Things seemed to get a little better, but her focus in school still wasn't good, so her local Doctor & I decided to up her Vyvanse a little. That didn't work, & she started complaining about being sad & not knowing why, so we put her back into the outpatient program, where a violent outburst got her admitted for 5 days & nights. They changed her medications again (Moved Vyvanse dose back, stopped the Abilify & added Risperdal).
Sorry for the novel, I will wind this up because I have to leave shortly.
After getting out of the hospital, she lasted 1 1/2 days in school before the Principal called me to come pick her up. He said if we can get her stable, she would be welcomed back at the start of the school year. Meanwhile, I think I'm going to homeschool her. Because Michigan laws are so lax, that won't be a problem. One on one interaction will help her stay focused. I'm just worried about the next school year, because I'm gonna need a job by then, so I can't continue to homeschool.
My question is has anyone had any experiences with public charter schools? She will not go back to the public schools. I'm not going to send her back to the christian school because we really couldn't afford the tuition. That leaves a couple of public charter schools in the area, including the one she started school at. From my research, because they are public, they have to follow all the same laws that the regular public schools do, so getting her a 504 or IEP program should be no problem (provided they acutally admit her into school). I've been looking & I can't seem to figure out what an IEP program actually is. What is it?
OK. I gotta go. Thanks in advance for any help/suggestions!
Just wanted to introduce myself, and say thanks. I've lurked around this board for a bit & I've gotten good tips, and I'm sure I'll get good advice for any questions I ask.
About me: I am a 38 yo stay at home dad. I was diagnosed with ADD (or whatever they called it back in 1981) as a child. I was put on Ritalin. I think I stayed on it too long as it totally messed up my personality. I went from being very outgoing & social to being very shy and a loner. Because of my experience I swore I would never put any child of mine on medications.
wife works 2 jobs to make ends meet. She has always had mental issues due to things I'm not at liberty to discuss. She is currently diagnosed with adult ADD and anxiety, so she gets Concerta & lots of Xanax to deal
easy child is a 20 yo college student. She moved out a couple of years ago, so we only see her when she needs something.
difficult child is a 10 yo girl. She was first diagnosed with ODD at 6. About a year ago she was tested again. The ODD diagnosis still stayed, but they also determined that she had ADD/ADHD. She was put on Abilify and Adderall. Our biggest issues have been with getting the right medications and school.
Thru first grade, she went to a public charter school. She generally did OK. Teachers had problems with her staying seated, getting work done, and with lying & stealing.
For 2-4th we put her in public schools. Even with a 504 program, it was a disaster. I'm going to leave out the details, but it ended on a day last February when she trashed an office (among other things), and bit & kicked a teacher. We were told that she would be expelled at the next incident. There were incidents every day, so it was a matter of when, not if, so we decided to pull her out. Then wife and her decided on a nice little private christian school. Because of her lack of education during the school year, they put her back into 3rd grade.
Things went really well last school year & for the first 2 months of this year, but her grades started slipping starting just after Haloween. The teacher & principal started complaining about some of the things she did, like inappropriate talk. Just after T-giving, the principal started mentioning expulsion if she didn't improve, so we & her therapist decided to enroll her in an outpatient mental health facility. They changed her medications a little (changed Adderall to Vyvanse & added Concerta) and gave her lots of therapy about her compulsive behaviors. Things seemed to get a little better, but her focus in school still wasn't good, so her local Doctor & I decided to up her Vyvanse a little. That didn't work, & she started complaining about being sad & not knowing why, so we put her back into the outpatient program, where a violent outburst got her admitted for 5 days & nights. They changed her medications again (Moved Vyvanse dose back, stopped the Abilify & added Risperdal).
Sorry for the novel, I will wind this up because I have to leave shortly.
After getting out of the hospital, she lasted 1 1/2 days in school before the Principal called me to come pick her up. He said if we can get her stable, she would be welcomed back at the start of the school year. Meanwhile, I think I'm going to homeschool her. Because Michigan laws are so lax, that won't be a problem. One on one interaction will help her stay focused. I'm just worried about the next school year, because I'm gonna need a job by then, so I can't continue to homeschool.
My question is has anyone had any experiences with public charter schools? She will not go back to the public schools. I'm not going to send her back to the christian school because we really couldn't afford the tuition. That leaves a couple of public charter schools in the area, including the one she started school at. From my research, because they are public, they have to follow all the same laws that the regular public schools do, so getting her a 504 or IEP program should be no problem (provided they acutally admit her into school). I've been looking & I can't seem to figure out what an IEP program actually is. What is it?
OK. I gotta go. Thanks in advance for any help/suggestions!