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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 273593" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>I didn't see your previous post, Therese. I'm with Terry on the bubble bath - poor kid, she sounds like she needs a little TLC especially in this.</p><p></p><p>And sticker systems - they worked for us, with difficult child 3 when we had the same problem. They DO work, but you have to be consistent and motivated. Sounds like bio-mum isn't either of those.</p><p></p><p>Something we have done, I don't know if it would work for her - we have wet wipes in our bathroom, they're for anyoone to use for all sorts of reasons (including adults wanting to clean up a bit more scrupulously in the nether regions). easy child 2/difficult child 2 used to always use hers to remove make-up. But I found they were really good at helping the clean-up. I also found the need to clean up well, to avoid the "sore tail" result especially in warmer weather. difficult child 3's cousin told me about a fruit-scented wipe which I bought for the car, on her say-so. They're different, they don't smell like baby wipes. Sometimes having something different can help.</p><p></p><p>Another thing - I have bought bottles of scented coconut oil (imported really cheaply from Fiji, I bought them from an Asian grocery store). I used the coconut oil on any "nappy rash" type of problem, I also have used it on prickly heat and chafed thighs (back when I had a "thunder thighs" problem). Under large boobs, too. And I found it helped prevent a lot of sore tail problems in difficult child 3.</p><p></p><p>If you can't get coconut oil, you can use any vegetable cooking oil. If she would like it scented, you can choose any fragrance oil (she can choose if she likes) and you can use it as a moisturiser on ANY part of the body, after a wash. You can even use it as a bath oil. But I always avoided using bath oil, it leaves a ring. So does soap. I always would use bubble bath on the washcloth as well, to avoid the ring around the tub.</p><p></p><p>So, scented/unscented including choice of scent - it might help her feel less stressed about it. </p><p></p><p>You mentioned she doesn't seem aware of it - that sounds like sensory integration issues. Often associated with that, can be food faddiness including refusing certain textures, as well as being fussy about the feeling of clothing. difficult child 1 used to refuse to wear certain shirts to school, even though they looked identical to me. It turned out to be the stitching used to hold in the label, or sometimes the thread used in overlocking. I took to removing the labels by unpicking them. I learned NOT to simply cut out the labels because it would leave a scratchy raw edge that he found just as bad.</p><p></p><p>We did find that with time, association, encouragement and reward, the boys did learn. difficult child 1 has been the slowest, he still has some problems in this area. It's his wife's problem now. We found that all he needs these days is to remember to "go". </p><p></p><p>Another surprise I got - Aspie kids (and Aspie-ish) don't always follow through with the same logic as the rest of us. Both boys went through a stage of believing that they would grow out of the need to excrete. One of the funniest moments I recall, was hearing difficult child 3 doing his usual early morning slam through the toilet door to empty his bladder. From the other side of the door I could hear sound as of Niagara Falls, followed by, "I don't get it - EVERY MORNING there's wee!"</p><p></p><p>To be that verbal, he must have been at least 6 or 7, maybe even 8.</p><p></p><p>You have to write down those moments.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 273593, member: 1991"] I didn't see your previous post, Therese. I'm with Terry on the bubble bath - poor kid, she sounds like she needs a little TLC especially in this. And sticker systems - they worked for us, with difficult child 3 when we had the same problem. They DO work, but you have to be consistent and motivated. Sounds like bio-mum isn't either of those. Something we have done, I don't know if it would work for her - we have wet wipes in our bathroom, they're for anyoone to use for all sorts of reasons (including adults wanting to clean up a bit more scrupulously in the nether regions). easy child 2/difficult child 2 used to always use hers to remove make-up. But I found they were really good at helping the clean-up. I also found the need to clean up well, to avoid the "sore tail" result especially in warmer weather. difficult child 3's cousin told me about a fruit-scented wipe which I bought for the car, on her say-so. They're different, they don't smell like baby wipes. Sometimes having something different can help. Another thing - I have bought bottles of scented coconut oil (imported really cheaply from Fiji, I bought them from an Asian grocery store). I used the coconut oil on any "nappy rash" type of problem, I also have used it on prickly heat and chafed thighs (back when I had a "thunder thighs" problem). Under large boobs, too. And I found it helped prevent a lot of sore tail problems in difficult child 3. If you can't get coconut oil, you can use any vegetable cooking oil. If she would like it scented, you can choose any fragrance oil (she can choose if she likes) and you can use it as a moisturiser on ANY part of the body, after a wash. You can even use it as a bath oil. But I always avoided using bath oil, it leaves a ring. So does soap. I always would use bubble bath on the washcloth as well, to avoid the ring around the tub. So, scented/unscented including choice of scent - it might help her feel less stressed about it. You mentioned she doesn't seem aware of it - that sounds like sensory integration issues. Often associated with that, can be food faddiness including refusing certain textures, as well as being fussy about the feeling of clothing. difficult child 1 used to refuse to wear certain shirts to school, even though they looked identical to me. It turned out to be the stitching used to hold in the label, or sometimes the thread used in overlocking. I took to removing the labels by unpicking them. I learned NOT to simply cut out the labels because it would leave a scratchy raw edge that he found just as bad. We did find that with time, association, encouragement and reward, the boys did learn. difficult child 1 has been the slowest, he still has some problems in this area. It's his wife's problem now. We found that all he needs these days is to remember to "go". Another surprise I got - Aspie kids (and Aspie-ish) don't always follow through with the same logic as the rest of us. Both boys went through a stage of believing that they would grow out of the need to excrete. One of the funniest moments I recall, was hearing difficult child 3 doing his usual early morning slam through the toilet door to empty his bladder. From the other side of the door I could hear sound as of Niagara Falls, followed by, "I don't get it - EVERY MORNING there's wee!" To be that verbal, he must have been at least 6 or 7, maybe even 8. You have to write down those moments. Marg [/QUOTE]
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