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<blockquote data-quote="busywend" data-source="post: 275717" data-attributes="member: 391"><p>So, you are frustrated with the child? Just imagine how frustrated the mom is. </p><p> </p><p>I hear you speaking poorly about the mom, but the truth is she is probably on her last bit of coping. Having a difficult child is terribly draining, as you know. So, just because she may not handle things as well as you - does not make her an uncaring, unloving mom. She may have been just as patient as you are trying to be for the last 8 years - and just can not do it anymore. </p><p> </p><p>I am not trying to say you are wrong, but just to consider that the mom just needs more help. She may need help to get back to a more patient place or help with breaks from dealing with this 24/7. </p><p> </p><p>Just because she has resorted to showering her every time she messes - does not make her a bad mom. Perhaps that is the only way she found that worked for her. Hey, at least she cared that the child was cleaned, right?! LOL! </p><p> </p><p>I say this because all too often we parents are judged for our actions, reactions and choices of parenting. We are often told to be more consistent, more strict, then told to let some things go and not to be so strict. It is a never ending balancing act to try what everyone else is suggesting. </p><p>And even it is works for you and the child in your home - does NOT mean it will for the mom and the child in that home. These kids are hard to figure out. </p><p> </p><p>I hope you did not take this as a mean post. I do not want it to be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="busywend, post: 275717, member: 391"] So, you are frustrated with the child? Just imagine how frustrated the mom is. I hear you speaking poorly about the mom, but the truth is she is probably on her last bit of coping. Having a difficult child is terribly draining, as you know. So, just because she may not handle things as well as you - does not make her an uncaring, unloving mom. She may have been just as patient as you are trying to be for the last 8 years - and just can not do it anymore. I am not trying to say you are wrong, but just to consider that the mom just needs more help. She may need help to get back to a more patient place or help with breaks from dealing with this 24/7. Just because she has resorted to showering her every time she messes - does not make her a bad mom. Perhaps that is the only way she found that worked for her. Hey, at least she cared that the child was cleaned, right?! LOL! I say this because all too often we parents are judged for our actions, reactions and choices of parenting. We are often told to be more consistent, more strict, then told to let some things go and not to be so strict. It is a never ending balancing act to try what everyone else is suggesting. And even it is works for you and the child in your home - does NOT mean it will for the mom and the child in that home. These kids are hard to figure out. I hope you did not take this as a mean post. I do not want it to be. [/QUOTE]
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