Hello. I am new here. I do not know where to start. I do not want to offend, bore, or annoy anyone. I am 46 with a 19 year old daughter with mental illness. She has had behavioral issues since she was in the 3rd grade. She is abusive in every shape and form at home; towards me, my husband (my husband is not her biological father), and her older sister (23). She and her sister have the same dad. I finally broke and gave her a letter that she needed to leave our home 8 months ago. However, I told her she is welcome to come back under 3 conditions: 1) STAY in therapy (I also said I will pay for all her mental health needs: co payments, medications, and what not), 2) MUST be in school or be employed full-time but if she chooses to do both, part-time is acceptable within reason., and 3) FOLLOW all rules in the house. She was finally back home as of a little over a week ago. I literally just kicked her out again last night. This time, no notice, nothing in writing, I just told her she had to leave immediately. I live in MA. It is finally the Fall and winter is near. I thought she was getting better but then she just turned. Five days/nights of her short stay back was horrendous. I tried and I tried to be understanding. I wanted her to know I am trying too by not telling her to leave again. Well, I am mess. I am back to square 1, like how I felt 8 months ago, all over again. I thought tough love would work. I don't know, force her to get help, stay in therapy, want to shape up to be home. I am rambling now. Thank you for reading.