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<blockquote data-quote="Alttlgabby" data-source="post: 345776" data-attributes="member: 6786"><p>"Alttlgabby, be careful you don't set her up for failure. Of course she is motivated to try to overcome impulsivity, but first, that is not specific enough, and it is also something her brain is not yet mature enough (in terms of development and capability) to be able to really control. So help her set smaller and more achievable goals. Also help her put in place some management strategies. For example, difficult child 1 does a lot better if he works from a written list. If he's calmer, he can function better. If he gets anxious or stressed, his impulse control suffers badly.</p><p> </p><p>When they act out of impulse, it is not the same as a kid being disobedient. You need to be aware of this distinction. If the kid falls down on the task, just give her a hug and say, "You tried. YOu've got this far, that is good. Let's pick up and keep going."</p><p>If you are in a position to support her to calm down when she needs to, and she succeeds in regaining control, congratulate her on this.</p><p> </p><p>And always - if you're saying something positive to her, keep it unconditional. Try to keep information bits (and instructions) as simple as possible. One bit at a time.</p><p> </p><p>Take notes. Keep a good diary on her and how she is going. It helps you keep track on her progress."</p><p> </p><p> </p><p><span style="color: indigo"><strong>Marg, first I would like to say that I am so sorry to hear about your cancer and that you are handling it well. I know it is not a fun thing for you or your family to go through. My sister had it and had to have a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) mastectomy done. It wasn't a fun time and at the time she was going through that, the dr found a pea sized lump in my left breast. I had it taken out and it was just a fibroadenoma, but scary all the same.</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: indigo"><strong>As for J... you are right on the money with the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). I was looking at some of the other sites as well, and did the "test" thing on the sight. She fits the criteria by about 98%! She also fits Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) from the one website I found. (I found out today that she gets up during class while the teacher is teaching to give her a "hug" and the teacher is becoming uncomfortable with it.)</strong></span></p><p><span style="color: indigo"><strong>psychiatric is going up on the ritalin and paxil. And I got the name of a wonderful doctor to take her to here at the "Brain Institute" here in Las Vegas to get a neuro psychiatric done!! YES!!! He also believes that there is more than likely the Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE), Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), and the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) going on! I had printed out the emails from her two teachers to take to him in regards to the razor at school and the drawing issues. He doesn't think schizophrenia but won't know anything until we do the neuro. I will be calling tomorrow morning to get her in. Thankfully, with our insurance we can call for psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists, etc.... and our first 8 visits we do not have to have a referral and they will pay for it. So, it is just a matter of getting an appointment. Next week could not be soon enough for me! She did pretty well today, although yesterday she had been drawing in another class obviously because she brought something to her teacher. They have testing this week, so there isn't much time for anything in class. I had thought about seeing if the teachers could have her take out a pencil and one piece of paper for notes and leaving her binder at their desk and that way she is not tempted to try to take any paper out of it to draw. If she doesn't have any, then she can't do it. I did talk to the doctor about the face blindness thing but we didn't go into much depth on that one. Will neuro testing tell anything about that as well? Let me tell you, I am here to learn as much as you ladies can/will teach me. </strong></span></p><p><span style="color: indigo"><strong>by the way... I DO keep a journal. Have for a very long time... that is part of my sanity. LOL Even before the girls came, I kept a journal. I write stuff down all the time in my appointment book as well. Tomorrow is therapy, so we shall see how that goes. Today was a pretty good day, although she was going to try to get away without doing the work that was due to be turned in yesterday. She thought I didn't know that they do have a couple of their regular classes tomorrow aside from testing. LOL Anyway... I am going to bed! Thanks!!!!!</strong></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Alttlgabby, post: 345776, member: 6786"] "Alttlgabby, be careful you don't set her up for failure. Of course she is motivated to try to overcome impulsivity, but first, that is not specific enough, and it is also something her brain is not yet mature enough (in terms of development and capability) to be able to really control. So help her set smaller and more achievable goals. Also help her put in place some management strategies. For example, difficult child 1 does a lot better if he works from a written list. If he's calmer, he can function better. If he gets anxious or stressed, his impulse control suffers badly. When they act out of impulse, it is not the same as a kid being disobedient. You need to be aware of this distinction. If the kid falls down on the task, just give her a hug and say, "You tried. YOu've got this far, that is good. Let's pick up and keep going." If you are in a position to support her to calm down when she needs to, and she succeeds in regaining control, congratulate her on this. And always - if you're saying something positive to her, keep it unconditional. Try to keep information bits (and instructions) as simple as possible. One bit at a time. Take notes. Keep a good diary on her and how she is going. It helps you keep track on her progress." [COLOR=indigo][B]Marg, first I would like to say that I am so sorry to hear about your cancer and that you are handling it well. I know it is not a fun thing for you or your family to go through. My sister had it and had to have a Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) mastectomy done. It wasn't a fun time and at the time she was going through that, the dr found a pea sized lump in my left breast. I had it taken out and it was just a fibroadenoma, but scary all the same.[/B][/COLOR] [COLOR=indigo][B]As for J... you are right on the money with the Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD). I was looking at some of the other sites as well, and did the "test" thing on the sight. She fits the criteria by about 98%! She also fits Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) from the one website I found. (I found out today that she gets up during class while the teacher is teaching to give her a "hug" and the teacher is becoming uncomfortable with it.)[/B][/COLOR] [COLOR=indigo][B]psychiatric is going up on the ritalin and paxil. And I got the name of a wonderful doctor to take her to here at the "Brain Institute" here in Las Vegas to get a neuro psychiatric done!! YES!!! He also believes that there is more than likely the Fetal Alcohol Effects (FAE), Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD), and the Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) going on! I had printed out the emails from her two teachers to take to him in regards to the razor at school and the drawing issues. He doesn't think schizophrenia but won't know anything until we do the neuro. I will be calling tomorrow morning to get her in. Thankfully, with our insurance we can call for psychologists, therapists, psychiatrists, etc.... and our first 8 visits we do not have to have a referral and they will pay for it. So, it is just a matter of getting an appointment. Next week could not be soon enough for me! She did pretty well today, although yesterday she had been drawing in another class obviously because she brought something to her teacher. They have testing this week, so there isn't much time for anything in class. I had thought about seeing if the teachers could have her take out a pencil and one piece of paper for notes and leaving her binder at their desk and that way she is not tempted to try to take any paper out of it to draw. If she doesn't have any, then she can't do it. I did talk to the doctor about the face blindness thing but we didn't go into much depth on that one. Will neuro testing tell anything about that as well? Let me tell you, I am here to learn as much as you ladies can/will teach me. [/B][/COLOR] [COLOR=indigo][B]by the way... I DO keep a journal. Have for a very long time... that is part of my sanity. LOL Even before the girls came, I kept a journal. I write stuff down all the time in my appointment book as well. Tomorrow is therapy, so we shall see how that goes. Today was a pretty good day, although she was going to try to get away without doing the work that was due to be turned in yesterday. She thought I didn't know that they do have a couple of their regular classes tomorrow aside from testing. LOL Anyway... I am going to bed! Thanks!!!!![/B][/COLOR] [/QUOTE]
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