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<blockquote data-quote="TeDo" data-source="post: 575574" data-attributes="member: 15799"><p>If the developmental pediatrician is "good", they SHOULD have a waiting list. The neuropsychologist we saw was 200 miles away and we had to wait 7 months to get in because he was so booked up. It was worth the wait.</p><p></p><p>As for the video, it does sound like you could be making things worse. If it has you reacting as you've described ..... you're leaving the door wide open for the therapist to put the whole blame on you and your actions. Parents get blamed most of the time anyway and you're going to give an incompetent "professional" the "proof". I really don't know if you want to do that. It will end up in their notes and every single professional you see from here on out will have a preconceived idea before you ever walk in their door. The video should be of your daughter's behavior only.</p><p></p><p>The other side of that is you need to stop feeding into her behavior. Stop ranting, raving, screaming, yelling, etc. Stay 100% silent or keep a REALLY ccalm voice and ask questions CALMLY like "why don't you want to get dressed?" or "why don't you want to get dressed right now?". Then quietly listen to her answer, whether it's yelled or not. I know this is hard but the keys to eliminating the behaviors are to 1)figure out WHY they're happening and 2)not feeding into them (providing the fuel to keep them going). To figure out the why, you need to keep a VERY open mind and figure out how she thinks. The only way to figure that out is to keep your own thoughts and opinions out of the equation and look at the specifics of what she was doing before you made the request and how you made the request.</p><p></p><p>I am so glad you found us. It has been my lifeline for a couple years now. I would be a complete basket case if it weren't for the "family" here. Stick around and we can walk you through and support you down the road of parenting a difficult child to adulthood and beyond.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TeDo, post: 575574, member: 15799"] If the developmental pediatrician is "good", they SHOULD have a waiting list. The neuropsychologist we saw was 200 miles away and we had to wait 7 months to get in because he was so booked up. It was worth the wait. As for the video, it does sound like you could be making things worse. If it has you reacting as you've described ..... you're leaving the door wide open for the therapist to put the whole blame on you and your actions. Parents get blamed most of the time anyway and you're going to give an incompetent "professional" the "proof". I really don't know if you want to do that. It will end up in their notes and every single professional you see from here on out will have a preconceived idea before you ever walk in their door. The video should be of your daughter's behavior only. The other side of that is you need to stop feeding into her behavior. Stop ranting, raving, screaming, yelling, etc. Stay 100% silent or keep a REALLY ccalm voice and ask questions CALMLY like "why don't you want to get dressed?" or "why don't you want to get dressed right now?". Then quietly listen to her answer, whether it's yelled or not. I know this is hard but the keys to eliminating the behaviors are to 1)figure out WHY they're happening and 2)not feeding into them (providing the fuel to keep them going). To figure out the why, you need to keep a VERY open mind and figure out how she thinks. The only way to figure that out is to keep your own thoughts and opinions out of the equation and look at the specifics of what she was doing before you made the request and how you made the request. I am so glad you found us. It has been my lifeline for a couple years now. I would be a complete basket case if it weren't for the "family" here. Stick around and we can walk you through and support you down the road of parenting a difficult child to adulthood and beyond. [/QUOTE]
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