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<blockquote data-quote="elizabrary" data-source="post: 747619" data-attributes="member: 11235"><p>Welcome 200Meters. So sorry you are going through it. We have all been through similar situations as well. It is good to come here because often friends and family don't understand the difficulties in dealing with troubled adult children. It is not fun, as you are well aware, and our options are limited because they are adults. I'm glad you aren't blaming yourself. Your son sounds like a handful, and I agree with other opinions that there is likely drug use involved. It's nice that your other son wants to help but I'm wondering if that's a good idea. Frequently these troubled adult kids function better for someone objective, who is outside of the situation. Maybe there is some type of halfway house or even an inpatient situation he could go to. It sounds like he would benefit from staying at a treatment facility if the judge allows it. I don't want to dampen your hopes, but I want you to be aware that the contriteness you are seeing is very common with these kids when they get backed into a corner. They will say whatever they have to say to get out of a bad situation and then frequently return right back to the same lifestyle that got them there when they get the chance. I think it's good he can't come back to your home. The hardest thing to learn when dealing with these kids is to focus on ourselves and let our kids deal with their own messes. If your love and concern could have "fixed" him it would have by now. Keeping my fingers crossed for a positive outcome. Sending peace to you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="elizabrary, post: 747619, member: 11235"] Welcome 200Meters. So sorry you are going through it. We have all been through similar situations as well. It is good to come here because often friends and family don't understand the difficulties in dealing with troubled adult children. It is not fun, as you are well aware, and our options are limited because they are adults. I'm glad you aren't blaming yourself. Your son sounds like a handful, and I agree with other opinions that there is likely drug use involved. It's nice that your other son wants to help but I'm wondering if that's a good idea. Frequently these troubled adult kids function better for someone objective, who is outside of the situation. Maybe there is some type of halfway house or even an inpatient situation he could go to. It sounds like he would benefit from staying at a treatment facility if the judge allows it. I don't want to dampen your hopes, but I want you to be aware that the contriteness you are seeing is very common with these kids when they get backed into a corner. They will say whatever they have to say to get out of a bad situation and then frequently return right back to the same lifestyle that got them there when they get the chance. I think it's good he can't come back to your home. The hardest thing to learn when dealing with these kids is to focus on ourselves and let our kids deal with their own messes. If your love and concern could have "fixed" him it would have by now. Keeping my fingers crossed for a positive outcome. Sending peace to you. [/QUOTE]
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