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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 748526" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>What are you doing for yourself today? To alleviate the stress? To take care of yourself? To heal? To set limits?</p><p></p><p>You said it yourself: you can't change your children's behavior.</p><p></p><p>Speaking for myself, I have found that working on myself and taking the focus OFF of my dysfunctional stepchildren, and putting it entirely on ME, was the path back to sanity.</p><p></p><p>Venting is OK, but there does come a point where it serves to only dig one's hole deeper. I have been there and done that.</p><p></p><p>There's another way to live. A more peaceful way, though it doesn't come without cost. We do have to sacrifice our dreams, hopes, and plans for our children, at least for a time. But the gift is that we discover ourselves and who we are beyond our role as parents to troubled children.</p><p></p><p>Continual drama and chaos are not healthy for anybody - wallowing in it, even less so. I gently suggest that perhaps you consider switching the focus from the problems in your household to potential solutions for those problems - whatever they may be.</p><p></p><p>Please ignore any feedback that doesn't seem relevant.</p><p></p><p>Have a great weekend!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 748526, member: 13303"] What are you doing for yourself today? To alleviate the stress? To take care of yourself? To heal? To set limits? You said it yourself: you can't change your children's behavior. Speaking for myself, I have found that working on myself and taking the focus OFF of my dysfunctional stepchildren, and putting it entirely on ME, was the path back to sanity. Venting is OK, but there does come a point where it serves to only dig one's hole deeper. I have been there and done that. There's another way to live. A more peaceful way, though it doesn't come without cost. We do have to sacrifice our dreams, hopes, and plans for our children, at least for a time. But the gift is that we discover ourselves and who we are beyond our role as parents to troubled children. Continual drama and chaos are not healthy for anybody - wallowing in it, even less so. I gently suggest that perhaps you consider switching the focus from the problems in your household to potential solutions for those problems - whatever they may be. Please ignore any feedback that doesn't seem relevant. Have a great weekend! [/QUOTE]
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